Divorce Therapy

After all, I don't want to get rustier than I am... I was married for almost 3 years and we were engaged for seven months before that. I haven't dated in quite a bit. Is it too soon for that? All I want is to meet guys and just get back in the game. Should I just chill for a while longer? I've done online dating before. I met a boyfriend online and also had a few dates. I would definitely try it again, I think it's just another way to meet people that you wouldn't have normally met. My only... Sign in to see full entry.

Can you say embarrassment? E-M-B-A-R-R-A-S-S-M-E-N-T My mother and father in law have been living in my former home with my former husband since the beginning of July. The house was a nasty mess and being the codling babying mother she is to Tim, she cleaned up the house that he had neglected all that time. Yesterday Tim and I were talking about arrangements of how he was going to send me some stuff I left. At the end he only -supposedly- found my nice bathrobe and my Channel sunglasses, oh and... Sign in to see full entry.

This morning I was walking my dog, my hair in a messy ponytail, no makeup, shorts and a baby t-shirt. Not attractive at all. This dude calls comes up to me, wanting to see my dog. Rocky lets him pet him while this guy is all staring at me. I tell him, "Good day," and start walking off. He then says, "Do you have another leash?" "What?" "I would love for you to put a leash on me." I laughed nervously and kept walking. He kept saying things but I couldn't hear them as I was walking away but I did... Sign in to see full entry.

or displeasure. That's the beauty of free will, right? Just say the word and it will magically appear in your email... I so appreciate your imput on my book in progess. This is awesome, this really is a Writing Marketplace, isn't it? Sign in to see full entry.

Why is it that going to the dentist is so scary? Oh, right, all the fun hardware they mercilessly use on your poor mouth. In this case, though, I just went in for a dental impression of my upper teeth. I had retainers years ago (I got them at 19 and used them for a year and a half more or less) and now I need to wear a retainer at night for pretty much the rest of my life. Tim's Rotweiller broke it while we were together. Did I mention he got a second one after I left? He's nuts I'm telling you.... Sign in to see full entry.

I haven't been able to comment as much on the blogs I love to read lately. I've been busy at work and the "free" time I take for myself I've been working on my book and actually posting blogs. I've also been editing pictures of my parent's wedding to make them presentable. For their next anniversary in December, I want to present them a cute scrapbook of their wedding pics. I also went to the gym last night with Lisa and we had a good time. We didn't see a trainer because I decided it would be... Sign in to see full entry.

The day before yesterday I called a friend and we talked for almost an hour. We were out of touch for a long time but reconnected recently because he is getting divorced too. They had been married for 12 years and have two kids. They are now sharing custody and are separated. She still thinks that they will work it out but he is certain he wants it to end. He’s been having a tough time at work and with the whole situation. About two months ago when we first spoke, he seemed to be doing fine but... Sign in to see full entry.

This morning I woke up with bad allergies, I was having difficulty breathing. This has happened several times and on three occasions I had to go to the hospital. I was allergic to my cat but even after three trips to the ER I wouldn't give him away because I loved him so much. I started taking an allergy pill every day per suggestion of a nurse who also has cats. Everyone else, almost everyone, was telling me to get rid of him. He was my baby. NO way. I was forced to give him away because my mom... Sign in to see full entry.

I’ve been published in Associated Content.com, does that count? I have also written dozens of stories and posted them online. However, I suppose the symbol for me of being a real author is actually getting accepted by a publishing house and receiving a shiny new book in the mail. Lately, I’ve been letting myself dream. I finally have a real writing project. I have been working on my teen book and just finished editing the second chapter. As I mentioned in a previous blog, this used to be a... Sign in to see full entry.

I posted his translated message in a previous blog ( So George is Back…. What Should I do? ) and after a lot of thought, I finally replied. After all, he was a big support in my darkest hours with Tim and gave me hope for a future that included a better man in it, even if it didn't turn out to be George. So this is what I replied... Hi George, how are you? I’ve been a lot better. My divorce from Tim has been final since last Tuesday. They haven’t fired me from my job and it looks like they... Sign in to see full entry.

Making me feel guilty for his shortcomings, sexual or otherwise. Making me move away from my family. Buying things I am not in agreement with my credit. Making me feel bad about myself. Letting him pressure me into doing things I know are wrong. Making me so upset I resort to shameful behavior. Gaining 70 pounds and then somehow blaming it on me. Neglect me for his hobbies. Continuing to be good friends with someone who doesn’t like me. Quitting two jobs, telling me that I need to step up and... Sign in to see full entry.

I am trying to make sense of so many things that went wrong in my marriage to Tim and among them is our sex life. We did enjoy our sex life sometimes, but it was also fraught with frustration and sometimes, disappointments, just like the rest of our marriage. Warning, this post is a bit graphic, even though I tried not to make it vulgar, but it is very frank, also it is a bit long… It all started in the honeymoon. We were both virgins, in the strict sense of the word. In other words, we had... Sign in to see full entry.

I should already be used to being single, it's been over three months... but little things come up and just eat at me annoyingly. For instance, I was at the supermarket, getting goodies for myself and I saw some avocados. Tim and I used to love avocados. I was about to grab some when I remembered... I'm not the one who does the cooking anymore... Why should this upset me? Well, my cooking was something Tim did like and I enjoyed doing it for him, even if I wasn't an expert or anything. Life... Sign in to see full entry.

Yes, I have been writing a novel. It's been on the works for years and I didn't touch it at all during my marriage. It started as a fanfiction actually. I was very into Japanese Anime and wrote dozens of stories when I was in my late teens and early 20's... then I started a much longer story, that became a novel in the works. I went back and took out all references to the anime and made the characters my own (although they were my own already). It was a reconstruction project. It is geared... Sign in to see full entry.

My appointment yesterday was actually pretty productive. I was finally able to spit out about my temper issue and how I used to hit Tim. We talked about my new 14 year old friend and how that might end up in the pooper. I also showed him the list I had prepared yesterday. We discussed how I am too needy and get too close to people. I also reveal too much too quickly and set myself up for rejection that way. He is a very nice guy and a good Psychologist, he didn’t make me feel terrible about it... Sign in to see full entry.