Divorce Therapy

Is this possible? Could a stranger's words be even more comforting than those of the ones you already know and love? I believe it can happen. When something really traumatic happens to you or when you are feeling extremely down, yes, a word of comfort from a loved one will definitely bring you up. However, when someone who barely knows you gets your story, or offers you a sincere word of praise or friendliness, it can be even more powerful. When a loved one tells you how great you are or how... Sign in to see full entry.

So we "survived" his suicide attempt (the blog about that is here, it will open in a new window) and came home that night, professing our "love" for each other. More like our "sick co-dependence", but whatever. The next day we woke up super late and were just lounging around the house. Last day's event was not mentioned much. Tim did ask me to please not tell anyone about what had happened, especially my parents, and I agreed. Sure, it was a big mistake; his family should have been informed... Sign in to see full entry.

When I finally decided it was time to leave Tim, I felt energized. Sure, it was an awful situation, but I couldn't stay there one minute longer. He was destroying me, sucking the life out of me. I kept thinking about all the wonderful possibilities... not having to argue with someone who was bent on auto-destruction, no more throwing up all the time, no more stressful sex... I was free! Maybe, even, one day I could start dating again and find someone I could respect, someone I could really see... Sign in to see full entry.

I had stuck on for almost three years when one big blowout forced me out. I don't know how much he planned it or how much was it a result of his sick, twisted mind. He did tell me several times that if I wanted a separation or a divorce it was going to have to be me the one who left. We had had a really bad argument and even after I said that it was time to stop -and I usually didn't have that much self-control- he continued giving away the poison. I finally told him, "You know what, I think I'm... Sign in to see full entry.

Despite the recent upheaval in my life, there is a lot to be thankful for. Sure, I don't often feel that way. Many times I feel completely wretched. However, it could be worse... I am alive. Yes, with both of our emotional issues and the fact that he tried to kill himself before I left him -a blog about that is coming up soon- I believe both our lives were in danger. I was in two car accidents in a month and I almost died in the second one. I actually had a place to go when I decided to leave.... Sign in to see full entry.

Ok, I understand we are going through a divorce and that we are no longer obligated to tell each other every detail of our lives. I mean, he doesn’t even know how much I am making and I hadn’t told him I was working until he asked. I didn’t give him any details, of course. I don’t want for him to think I am making loads of money while he is “stuck” with the house (yes, my darling ex tried to spin him keeping the house as a bad thing…) and decide I don’t need for him to help with the debts. I am... Sign in to see full entry.

I don't believe in premarital sex. Period. This is going to be a problem. I waited until I was married to Tim. He was my first and only so far. Ok, so maybe I wasn't 100% pure... but I did not anticipate the wedding night. Not completely. Now I find myself 26 and sexless. Before I got married at least I didn't know what I was missing, technically. Sure, I had a pretty good idea, but there is a big difference between "having an idea" and "knowing." Ok, so sex with Tim wasn't always an earth... Sign in to see full entry.

I know I am not the only woman in the world going through a divorce right now. Heck, there are probably tons of divorced people right here in this community. However, I feel like I am the only one. I feel so lonely, so rejected, so down. Even though I was the one that left Tim, he doesn't want me back, not that I would ever go back with him. Bitterness, sadness, disappointment, how much I am feeling. Is there anyone else here who is or has gone through something like this? It is the ultimate... Sign in to see full entry.

As in any good (or bad) story, mine has a cast of characters. Let me introduce: Tim: My soon to be ex-husband. Unstable, cynical sense of humor, lazy, overweight, selfish. He probably has some good qualities but I don't want to think about them, really. My mom: Overprotective, likes telling people what to do, talented with her hands, loving, too perceptive. My dad: The rock of the family, a total nerd, always with his head in the clouds, would do anything for us, loves my mom to death, sort of a... Sign in to see full entry.