Wednesday, February 12, 2003Is there really something wrong with me? (Only for the strong of stomach)This is perhaps the toughest post to write in a way, because it touches on some X-rated practices that often get written about in the Mature Audiences area of the Blogging Network. A prime indicator of abuse is that a victim gets forced to do sexual things that she is uncomfortable with. One of... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 11:47 AM Comments (0) (link) The green-eyed monsterI've resumed searching on domestic-violence websites for information on this topic, and one of the things that comes up fairly consistently in lists of batterer characteristics - especially if the topic of discussion is emotional abuse - is extreme jealousy. Before I begin, I would like to mention... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 8:07 AM Comments (0) (link) Tuesday, February 11, 2003People of two facesOne of the defining characteristics of any kind of abuse - it doesn't matter whether you're being beaten to a pulp or derided or taunted, or the victim of any combination of ways of being abused - is that abusers overwhelmingly present two faces to the people in their environment. In fact, although... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 8:59 AM Comments (2) (link) The pot calling the kettle blackFirst of all, I'd like to thank everyone who has left comments on this blog after they have read earlier posts. I have yet to run into anyone who has heard my side of the story who has not been uniformly supportive, and I'm including comments left on the Themestream versions of the material I have... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 8:12 AM Comments (0) (link) Monday, February 10, 2003Blaming the other guy for your own problemsOne of the reasons I took the approach I did earlier, when I talked about the "trigger" incident which led my former partner to call me deranged, is that it is easy for domestic abusers to blame others for their problems. (A link to the characteristics of the average abuser is included here. This... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 2:51 PM Comments (2) (link) Lessons learnedI think in terms of the relationship I've been describing, and what circulates in my mind is what I mentioned earlier. I'm still not through processing the information I've gleaned from it, and I hope, in a way, never to be. Put another way, it's a part of my past I wish not to shut a door on. There... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 2:39 PM Comments (0) (link) Time to 'fess up, part twoThe most important incident pointing up both my own problems and those caused directly by whatever went on in my old relationship happened in 1992. It is helpful at this point for me to remind you, my readers, both that I was an undiagnosed bipolar-disorder patient and that the remote-viewing... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 9:08 AM Comments (0) (link) Saturday, February 8, 2003Time to 'fess upThis is the point at which I talk about what I call my end of the bargain. The first thing it's necessary to say is that by telling you what I did in this particular former relationship, I'm not saying that the other party to the relationship is completely innocent of blame either. I know that this... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 12:50 PM Comments (0) (link) Thursday, February 6, 2003My own "take" on high-tech stalkingThe reason why the use of the GPS in stalking cases grabbed my attention was that I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that I was myself victimized in a rather cruel way, related to stalking. Faithful readers of this blog will remember that at the beginning, I gave this as the reason for my choice... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 9:05 PM Comments (0) (link) What to say?I have to confess that I have not posted the past few days because I have had little or nothing to say on this topic. However, something that I saw on today's online news - in a link from AOL to a story, as a matter of fact - really got me to thinking. Many of us have GPS receivers in our cars.... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 6:39 PM Comments (0) (link) |
About this BlogThe name of the post is derived from a Francis Schaeffer book, and intended to rebut something I'd seen on the Internet. The blog itself is about what I've learned about relationships from the ones I've had, and the ones I've observed. It will not be pleasant to read, and might wander off-topic occasionally, but is intended to be a long-term blog reading like a public journal. Links |
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