Marriage Counselor's Attitudes and advice. After 35 years of marriage, a husband and wife went to one, for counseling. When asked what the problem was, the wife went into a passionate, painful tirade listing every problem they had ever had, in all the years they had been married. On and on and on she went: neglect, lack of intimacy, emptiness, loneliness, feeling unloved and unlovable. An entire laundry list of unmet needs she had endured. Finally, after allowing this for a sufficient length of... Sign in to see full entry.