Friday, May 14, 2004Children, animals, and other living beingsA quintessential marker of abuse is the way in which the abuser reacts to outsiders. Here, I can use my own experience as something of an example. My former boyfriend used to get jealous as all get out if I so much as had an innocent conversation with a bystander. It is also often axiomatic that... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 1:25 PM Comments (2) (link) The lonesome loserReading someone else's blog today, I was reminded of one of my former boyfriend's least pleasing characteristics. At the time I dated him, he had no paying job, and spent merely two hours a day performing the task he claimed was his profession on his income tax return: writing. Well, without even... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 1:14 PM Comments (0) (link) Wednesday, May 5, 2004I would strongly suggest...reading Jemmie211's Opinionated Bitch. She tells the story of a friend of hers and that friend's children, and I'm worried about the lot of them. If you are currently in a situation similar to Jemmie's friend, get the (bleep) out. I mean NOW. And as you go, make your theme song "Birmingham," by... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 12:03 PM Comments (1) (link) Monday, April 26, 2004Recovering from abuseThis has been the challenge for me of late. I believe that it is possible to recover from abuse and move on with one's life. In fact, this is a highly individual process, but well worth the time and effort it takes to get there. I think recovery from abuse can operate the way grief does. Many of us... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 12:43 PM Comments (0) (link) Thursday, April 8, 2004Emotional and verbal abuseI know I've written about these subjects before; that's what this blog is all about, after all. However, I'm finding myself stymied, in the sense that I don't know how much more I can write about this subject without repeating myself endlessly. I'm sure readers of this blog don't want to read... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 11:32 AM Comments (2) (link) Thursday, March 4, 2004The skewed thinking of one abuserSomeone took the time to comment on the fact that I've visited my former partner's website. Part of the motivation behind those website visits is research, pure and simple, despite the fact that (to put it mildly) some of the content on that website is far from mainstream. Frankly, the material is... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 2:11 PM Comments (0) (link) Tuesday, March 2, 2004"You're just obsessed with the past"This is another lie told me by my abuser. He would love for me to quit writing about our relationship (such as it was) precisely because he doesn't want to be confronted with his own past behavior. Granted, the world has changed in the 27 years since we broke off our relationship. But, as the old... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 11:58 AM Comments (2) (link) Blaming the victimIn researching some abuse sites today, I found myself relating to this symptom of abuse. I've actually been blamed for something which happened to my former partner. The short description of the incident is that he blamed me for his getting into a hit-and-run accident; specifically, he claimed he... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 11:45 AM Comments (0) (link) Monday, February 23, 2004Domestic violence and animalsI may be repeating myself here, but it's worth it if someone new is reached with this message. Did you know that animal abuse is far more likely to happen along with domestic violence than in homes in which there is no domestic violence? I bring up the topic because my former partner was in the... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 12:17 PM Comments (2) (link) Monday, February 16, 20044,450 clergy accused of abusing minorsI just pulled up a news story on AOL about this issue, and the indications in this article are that this is actually much higher than some people thought the figure would be. The figure I quoted in the title of this post is an estimate of the number of priests accused of abuse since the year 1950.... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 6:37 PM Comments (2) (link) |
About this BlogThe name of the post is derived from a Francis Schaeffer book, and intended to rebut something I'd seen on the Internet. The blog itself is about what I've learned about relationships from the ones I've had, and the ones I've observed. It will not be pleasant to read, and might wander off-topic occasionally, but is intended to be a long-term blog reading like a public journal. Links |
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