A Lifetime of Holy Relationship

Monday, August 15, 2011

Core Beliefs and Relationship

We are all operating on unchecked assumptions and hidden programming. We have a bio-computer which is incredible and elegant. It allows us to drive a car, fix a meal, make love, and feel so many things. But, there is a problem. This awesome bio-computer, like all computers can only work according to its programming. Interestingly, our original programming or 'core beliefs' was out of our hands. Mother, Father, Sister, Brother, Teacher, and others programmed us from birth and throughout... Sign in to see full entry.

Tuesday, July 26, 2011


When an intimate partner allows hurt to be covered by anger, things can get pretty ugly. I wonder why we avoid experience the pain of hurt in favor of our reactive anger. Perhaps we feel more powerful and in control when anger energy flows. Hurt can often leave us feeling rather helpless and small. The problem is this: anger is so often destructive and hurtful, striking out at those who we perceive as threats. Often, the closer our relationship, the more destructive and harmful is our our anger.... Sign in to see full entry.

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Vows of commitment

Beloved, I am smitten by the integrity of your spirit and life. I believe that together we create a greater blessing for all because of the bond and commitment that we have made with one another. Therefore, I choose to honor you and us with the following intentions: I give you my whole self materially, emotionally and spiritually. I dedicate myself to your well being on all levels. I will love you to the best of my ability and pledge to forgive you all misunderstandings, hurts, and failings. I... Sign in to see full entry.

Saturday, June 25, 2011

Relationship Complaint Department

How could she do that? What was she thinking? How can I respond with higher love? How can fear be overhealed by love? What is the most hurtful thing you could say to a man who loves you so much he finished his work and drove thirty miles to help you because you said you were overwhelmed with work, and awkwardly complained about standing around? How about? "Well why don't you just get out of my store and go on home... i do not want to play with anymore today (or this weekend as well)!" What was... Sign in to see full entry.

Sunday, February 13, 2011

An Allegory Continued - Example of Using the Gift of the Blessing

Let's use the recent events in Egypt: Choose to Bless the Victims (on all sides) Choose to Bless the Perpetrators Choose to bless all who have witnessed these events. It is just that simple. Sign in to see full entry.

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Allegory Continues

At this point it must suffice to let you know that she was right, 'I could not believe her story.' More, I dare not say for fear of giving away her identity by some quirky detail revealed in its telling. I will tell you this: I felt I had to refund her missed appointment fee. She clearly could not have let me know she was going to miss the appointment and the reasons were just as clearly out of her control. The next fifty minutes were spent in 'trauma recovery' Humans appear to be unique in... Sign in to see full entry.

Friday, February 11, 2011

The Allegory Continues - Next week rolls around

Next came quickly and went as fast as it came. She did not show up for her appointment. Neither did she call or send any message. Should I worry? (Ha, that is funny....) Whoops, let's see... is there anything I can do about it in this moment? Yes, I could call her. But, is it my responsibility to contact her or hers (as I suspect) to call me? So no, in this moment, there is nothing to do. It's not my problem. And so I dismissed wondering any more as to why she missed her appointment. Wait! There... Sign in to see full entry.

Thursday, February 10, 2011

The Continuing Allegory- suggestions for overcoming fear

This is what I suggested to her in our last session: The worry Game - every time you have a worry, write it down on a peace of paper. Then symbolically turn it over to the Universe by burning it. When and if it comes up again, repeat the process, saying something like: "I turn this worry over to the Universe (use your own concept here)" Keep repeating this when it comes up again until it has no emotional charge and you can dismiss it easily. Realize that if there is nothing you can do about your... Sign in to see full entry.

Sunday, February 6, 2011

The Continuing Allegory

I had to go out of town the next week, so I did not see her at all. Thankfully, she did not call either. Our second appointment went very well (that is to say much progress was made). Without revealing any specific content, let me just say that she opened up to my ministrations an a deep way. There was moment in our encounter where our eyes met and I shared the depth of her fears. Now I could see that she was depending on her fears to protect her from intimacy and success. As long as she... Sign in to see full entry.

Sunday, January 16, 2011

A Short Story (allegory) Con't.

(con't) My advice is: If there is something you can do about your problem in this moment, do it. Otherwise if you can do nothing in this moment, it is not your problem. For example, my checking account was overdrawn earlier this month. Until my social security check is automatically deposited, there was nothing I could do about it, so I ignored my balance and let my worry go. On one level worry expresses a lack of faith and trust in God and God’s goodness and mercy towards us. I like to work... Sign in to see full entry.

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