Love isn’t an act, it’s a whole life. It’s staying with her now because she needs you; it’s knowing you and she will still care about each other when sex and daydreams, fights and futures—when all that’s on the shelf and done with. Love—why, I’ll tell you what love is: it’s you at seventy-five and... Sign in to see full entry.
Tuesday, May 24, 2022
Sunday, May 22, 2022
"I knew what it was like to lose someone you loved. You didn't get past something like that, you got through it." - Jodi Picoult, Change of Heart It bears repeating that you never "get over" your loss. You simply learn to live with it. Sign in to see full entry.
Saturday, May 21, 2022
"Each of us has his own rhythm of suffering." - Roland Barthes It may be frustrating that others close to your loved one do not feel the same way that you do about your loss. Everyone's grief, like everyone's love, is different. Accepting that will help you find peace. Sign in to see full entry.
Friday, May 20, 2022
Suppressed grief suffocates, it rages within the breast and is forced to multiply its strength. - Ovid If you hide how you are feeling, it slowly consumes you. Go online, call a friend, or find a grief support group. Pretending that you are "handling" your grief alone does not make it go away.... Sign in to see full entry.
Thursday, May 19, 2022
"Grief is depression in proportion to circumstance; depression is grief out of proportion to circumstance." - Andrew Solomon, The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression When you are grieving, you feel down. It seems like it is a constant presence at times. This is normal and typical. It may frighten... Sign in to see full entry.
Wednesday, May 18, 2022
"To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world." - Brandi Snyder Who would love to hear from you today? Pick up the phone and call. I'm not sure the attribution of this quote is correct, but it still means what I wanted it to mean. Sign in to see full entry.
Tuesday, May 17, 2022
"We need people in our lives with whom we can be as open as possible. To have real conversations with people may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage and risk." - Thomas Moore If the people close to you are not grieving in the same way that you are, you may want to go... Sign in to see full entry.
Monday, May 16, 2022
"One day someone is going to hug you so tight. that all of your broken pieces will stick back together" - Anonymous Give someone a hug. It is good for your soul and makes you feel connected. Sign in to see full entry.
Sunday, May 15, 2022
"Please believe that things are good with me, and even when they're not, they will be soon enough. And I will always believe the same about you." - Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower When you run into people who know about your loss, it may be hard for them to say the "right" thing or... Sign in to see full entry.
Saturday, May 14, 2022
"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you." - Walt Whitman While Walt Whitman was using the idea of sunshine and shadows as a metaphor, take some time to literally get some sunshine. It is easy to withdraw when you are grieving, but the fresh air and sunshine can... Sign in to see full entry.