"Sarah, though, was still sometimes ruled by stark pain, lost to everything else. Grief slipped away, only to attack from behind. It changed shape endlessly. It lacerated her, numbed her, stalked her, startled her, caught her by the throat. It deceived her eye with glimpses of Charles, her ear with... Sign in to see full entry.
Tuesday, August 30, 2022
Monday, August 29, 2022
"You who have never "been there" in the throes of grief, have no idea what is going on inside the head of the grieving spouse: the scattered thoughts, the constant worry that we will forget something or someone in our fog-induced state, that strange feeling of not quite "being all there" when out in... Sign in to see full entry.
Sunday, August 28, 2022
"Grief is always sudden as winter, no matter how long the autumn." - J. Aleksandr Wootton. Forgetting: impressions from the millennial borderland Even if you thought you'd be ready for the death of someone close, you probably found that you weren't. You may have a sense of relief for the person if... Sign in to see full entry.
Saturday, August 27, 2022
"The tough times start," he said, "the day the last casserole dish is returned." - Michael Perry There is a palpable silence when the rituals surrounding death are over. It feels like this is the new normal, but it is just a transitional phase. You can fill your home again with sounds and life and... Sign in to see full entry.
Friday, August 26, 2022
"It didn't help when he told David that his mother would always be with him, even if he couldn't see her. An unseen mother couldn't go for long walks with you on summer evenings, drawing the names of trees and flowers from her seemingly infinite knowledge of nature; or help you with your homework,... Sign in to see full entry.
Thursday, August 25, 2022
"Respect your needs and limitations as you work through your grief and begin to heal." People may be asking you what they can do to help. While well-intentioned, that question can feel overwhelming. You might want to reply with a comment like, "Thank you so much for asking. This has been so tough... Sign in to see full entry.
Tuesday, August 23, 2022
"The whole world can become the enemy when you lose what you love." - Kristina McMorris, B ridge of Scarlet Leaves There will be times when you feel more anger than sorrow. While this is natural, do not let anger take over how you see the world. Know that this feeling will pass and that the anger is... Sign in to see full entry.
"There are as many sorrows as there are people who feel them and there are no rules... It is solitary... Grief is such a lonely thing. There is no one in it with you - others may grieve for the same soul, but they do not grieve exactly for what you also grieve. No one has lost precisely what you... Sign in to see full entry.
Monday, August 22, 2022
"It takes so little... to lose it; grief and disappointment can take one's faith away so easily that you might wake one morning and have none left." - Susan Fletcher, The Silver Dark Sea What were your views of God or some sort of higher power before your loss? Have they changed as a result of it?... Sign in to see full entry.
Sunday, August 21, 2022
"Century after century, the belief that an individual's physical health was independent of his or her emotional health has so dominated medical thought that there has even been open contempt for anyone who would dare to claim that a person's physical well-being is the sum of its internal and... Sign in to see full entry.