Tuesday, December 9, 2003EffectsI've had a lot of chances to think about the effects of writing this blog lately. Some of those chances have come from thinking about something my informant mentioned to me recently. One of the things my former partner told my informant is that it would be a simple matter to get people to hate me... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 4:10 PM Comments (0) (link) Jealousy and the abuserThis is a topic that deserves repeated mentions in this and other areas of the Internet. Those of you using AOL can easily access the profile of my former partner's current wife. In that profile, you can read that her husband - the man I used to date many years ago - is still as jealous as he ever... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 10:17 AM Comments (0) (link) Friday, December 5, 2003Donating a deactivated phoneThis is a site which talks about a program I'm interested in myself. If they can reactivate a deactivated phone, they will. If they can't, they'll figure out a way to recycle the battery and parts safely so that they don't damage the environment. This is the precise type of program I was talking... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 12:53 PM Comments (2) (link) But what to do now?I believe it was in Women, Sex and Addiction that Charlotte Kasl recounted a method of handling continuous complaining. She talks about a group of Native American women who would allow you to "vent" or "kvetch" for perhaps two or three weeks in a row. After that time period had elapsed, when next... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 7:41 AM Comments (0) (link) Thursday, December 4, 2003More musingsI'm not quite finished yet - unfortunately for those who would predict my downfall. As I've stated in other posts - one of which I wrote the other day - I've been doing more heavy-duty research into domestic violence. One of the things that finally clicked with me today is something I've found out... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 1:06 PM Comments (0) (link) Let me see how many times I can deliver this particular message...One of the most consistent behavior patterns of the abuser is that he delivers the message that his victim (in this case, me) is absolutely crazy - that she (and it's generally a "she") is deranged or otherwise psychologically unstable. As I like to tell people when this subject comes up, "Geez, at... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 11:57 AM Comments (2) (link) The worst thing a victim can doThe worst thing someone like me can do is to remain silent. Close behind that is the idea of doing what the abuser wants just because the abuser suggests it. My informant has told me that one of the essays on my former partner's website was written with me in mind. What my former partner wrote in... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 11:25 AM Comments (0) (link) Tuesday, December 2, 2003It's easy to become paranoid...It's easy to become paranoid when you've been through abuse of any sort. It seems as if the abuser is lurking under every corner, behind every bush or rock or shrub or tree. Or, maybe he's following you on the freeway, waiting for your tire to blow up so he can pull alongside you and inflict some... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 10:33 AM Comments (0) (link) Monday, December 1, 2003Aha!In order to keep this blog more up-to-date, I've been doing some research on abuse, particularly what is euphemistically called "domestic violence" - spousal abuse. One of the things I'm learning - or, arguably, learning again - is that abusers exhibit the precise behavior pattern my former partner... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 11:36 AM Comments (0) (link) Friday, November 28, 2003Secrecy and abuseThis entry was triggered by the content of my last entry, quite frankly. While re-reading and editing that post, I thought of what I know of my former boyfriend's attitudes. There is a huge difference between being a relatively ethical person who chooses not to divulge his or her bank balance, and... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 1:40 PM Comments (0) (link) |
About this BlogThe name of the post is derived from a Francis Schaeffer book, and intended to rebut something I'd seen on the Internet. The blog itself is about what I've learned about relationships from the ones I've had, and the ones I've observed. It will not be pleasant to read, and might wander off-topic occasionally, but is intended to be a long-term blog reading like a public journal. Links |
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