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Kabu, do please go ahead and write your frustrations here when you need to... we are all behind you. I hope the home help / assistance plan comes together soon for both of you. Big hugs xx
posted by
mneme
on March 12, 2018 at 7:30 AM
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I am so sorry that you are having a hard time at the moment. But God never gives us more than we can handle....hang in there...catch me on fb if you need or want to talk 
posted by
Annicita
on February 8, 2018 at 8:26 PM
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I am sure that you will find a way to manage the situation...That is a very nice photo of the two of you.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on February 7, 2018 at 10:11 AM
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One of the things that kept him going all these years has been his
strong determination (stubborness) - which can be almost impossible to deal with at times. I have a son who's just that way, and a perfectionist to boot. The only way I've ever gotten him to do something different was to get him to think it's his own idea. I hope you can find someone to come in once in a while to give you some respite. 
posted by
Pat_B
on February 7, 2018 at 5:50 AM
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The problem is I think that unless a person is totally unaware of their own surroundings.
There is always that fear of being alone amongst strangers and being separated from home. It is a very painful experience being a carer and unfortunately no one realizes the frustration or the anxiety it entails . You do at least need someone to come and socialize with Wiley at least twice a week,just to give yourself a break. It is not being disloyal. It breaks your heart,but one is only human.
posted by
C_C_T
on February 7, 2018 at 1:09 AM
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actually i was going to suggest just what adnohr did. look at the two of you, you were meant to be together. I dont know how long wiley has been feeling confused, but it has to be scary for him. Plant your seeds dear Kabu and do what you do, that is love him. And know that i love you both.
posted by
overtherainbow
on February 6, 2018 at 6:33 PM
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Maybe have someone come in and play cards and chat with him while you go out and about a bit? Do you think it would be more acceptable for Wiley?
posted by
adnohr
on February 6, 2018 at 6:08 PM
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We tried and tried to get my Dad to go to a really nice one, but he would not. Then one day my Mom got sick and had to have surgery. We explained to Dad that we needed to be with Mom without having to worry about him. He understood that and let us take him for one week Monday through Friday. He didn't dislike it but as soon as Mom was dismissed from the hospital, he refused to go ever again.
posted by
TAPS.
on February 6, 2018 at 5:37 PM
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Dear sweet Kabu
My sis is in the same situation. I do hope there is a good solution for you and Wiley. My heart goes out to you both.
posted by
Sea_Gypsy
on February 6, 2018 at 2:37 PM
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