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mneme:
That may be the problem, she has always had contention there. But I believe she is ill too. I am praying and that will make her come around and hopefully try to work out what is happening.

posted by Justi on June 18, 2009 at 9:43 PM | link to this | reply

Re:
person, sorry..

posted by mneme on June 18, 2009 at 9:28 PM | link to this | reply

Justi, my contribution: could she be really unhappy in her marriage? Sometimes that can make a peerson become withdrawn. 

posted by mneme on June 18, 2009 at 9:28 PM | link to this | reply

I think I myself have been very much like this -your friend -- there's so
much similarity

posted by Straightforward on June 17, 2009 at 7:17 PM | link to this | reply

I'm sorry about this. . .
Is she also avoiding church?  Is it a spiritual issue, do you think?  All you can do is pray.  I'm sorry you are going through this.

posted by NatureSpirit23 on June 16, 2009 at 10:44 PM | link to this | reply

seems strange she doesnt tell you whats up

posted by Lanetay on June 16, 2009 at 7:43 PM | link to this | reply

Muser.
Yes I believe you and Taps are both right. I have suspected this for some time. I did ask and she totally denied anything was different. She said she is the same as always and nothing is wrong. Now she does not take the phone calls.

posted by Justi on June 16, 2009 at 2:36 PM | link to this | reply

hey Magnolia lady...
My first thought was the same as TAPS'- Do you think she could be ill, physically or mentally, and she is withdrawing? Can you call her and just ask her point blank what is going on?  Tell her after being friends for so long that you are very concerned about her  I do hope you get things straightened out.  muser

posted by muser on June 16, 2009 at 2:05 PM | link to this | reply

Sometimes people just move on, or as Shelly says there might be a serious underlying health reason for her withdrawal. Puzzling situation.

posted by elinjo on June 16, 2009 at 1:14 AM | link to this | reply

My best friend of 15 years did this similar thing! I just gave her space and told her I was there for her anytime! She chose to move on! So, who really knows! I think praying for her peace is most appropriate at this juncture! It is a tough one because she won't return or answer calls! sam

posted by sam444 on June 15, 2009 at 9:28 PM | link to this | reply

Have you thought about maybe a physical ailment that she is having trouble handling?  Pain or health concerns, lack of energy, certain illnesses can make a person withdraw and become completely different than they were when health, vim and vigor were taken for granted.

posted by TAPS. on June 15, 2009 at 6:12 PM | link to this | reply

Smileycons!   Justi .. I would continue to periodically try to reach out and ask how she is doing in order to let her know you care. Perhaps she is not ready to share a episode in her life. This has happened to me with a very dear friend and I kept reminding myself that often " Those who are hardest to love are those who need love the most." Now .. we are good friends again and I think maybe a closer because I did not pester her but let her know that I was alway's nearby if needed. Hope this helps you with your problem.

posted by BrightIrish on June 15, 2009 at 4:22 PM | link to this | reply