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AsrdiqeAfrikaner
I agree with you 100%. What disturbs me is the general use of ugly and abusive language in the news, market place, general public and even amongst friends. I don't use it and don't have friends who do but even here on Blogit it is sometimes used and on other writing communities. As adults we can cope but children are the most vulnerable. They should be protected from such.
posted by
Justi
on September 19, 2008 at 10:50 PM
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Coping with abuse without being abusive
It is difficult not to let someone whom you love get to you with abusive words and it takes a measure of maturity and a good dose of Godly love to get to a state where such words from people in general do not hurt. Children are especially vulnerable to abusive words and although I think we should teach them not to take others abusive words to heart we should also teach them not to use abusive words themselves, in which case we should set the example. This is not easy, especially if you yourself have grown up being verbally abused.
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AardigeAfrikaner
on September 19, 2008 at 9:02 PM
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JanesOpinion
I feel there are a lot of factors at to how they do: Who speaks the words. How secure they are in the first place. Do they have Jesus who can take those wounds and bind them into healing.
posted by
Justi
on September 19, 2008 at 8:28 PM
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each one of us, at some point in our lives, has been profoundly
impacted in some way by cruel words. We all react differently, eh? For some, it just about does them in, while others are able to overcome. . . . Very good reminder!
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JanesOpinion
on September 19, 2008 at 8:23 PM
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Sam444
Only those who know how to rebuke the satanic power of the words can help themselves. That is not often children and many of us are victims of spousal or parental verbal abuse. It is devastating if one does not know how to put on the full armor.
posted by
Justi
on September 19, 2008 at 1:05 PM
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Pat-B
I do see your point, but my point is I don't want my children to be uglier, more insulting. I also find there are a lot of parents who brow beat their children until they are crippled before they are grown from words. Nobody has shown that a person with the ability to exercise average emotional responses can just sluff off ugly and horrific language toward them.
posted by
Justi
on September 19, 2008 at 1:04 PM
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It is difficult to shut words out, but that is all they are. People are going to say things and then it is just a matter of considering the source. Words do not carry power we allow them to have the power when we let them infiltrate our being. Just my humble thoughts. sam
posted by
sam444
on September 19, 2008 at 6:32 AM
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Well said, Justi. But we have to teach kids to ignore bullies, to
let their words fall off us like water off a duck's back. It's a mistake to let 'em know they get to us with nasty cracks and threats. We have to retaliate with something even uglier and more insulting. And that doesn't always stop someone who thinks torturing you is fun. I finally fought back against a bully once. It wasn't words that blackened his eye or left choke marks around his neck. And it wasn't words that taught him a bit of respect.
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Pat_B
on September 19, 2008 at 6:12 AM
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WileyJohn
That is about all you can do when some people hurt you so much you can only turn them over to God telling him you forgive them. It is He who does the work. Be blessed friend, George sends his regards too.
posted by
Justi
on September 18, 2008 at 8:22 PM
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Justi
Amen to that lovin' friend. I liked your comment about forgiving and loving but not necessarily liking, I've had that in my life often enough, and like you I pray and forgive as best I am able. Love you both
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WileyJohn
on September 18, 2008 at 7:55 PM
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Kabu
Let God take on those like our former husbands. He is big enough to love them. I have forgiven mine because God did it for me, I am glad when he asks me to love them it does not include liking them too. It is a sort of torture!
posted by
Justi
on September 18, 2008 at 7:46 PM
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It's called mental abuse the silent abuse that doesn't show
I know I allowed myself to be its victim for 20 years. I keep reminding myself that God loves him too.
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Kabu
on September 18, 2008 at 7:37 PM
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Lustorlove:
That is a shame but so very many do and don't even wince. That is a sad state of things. Be blessed lady.
posted by
Justi
on September 18, 2008 at 7:36 PM
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Greenfields
That is so incredibly good. Yes, yes!
posted by
Justi
on September 18, 2008 at 7:35 PM
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but if people know it hurts they do it to be mean and don't care about feelings
posted by
Lanetay
on September 18, 2008 at 7:27 PM
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Very true, Iread soemthing nice today, so here it is
Be kinder than necessary for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle. What if we taught our kids this? But more important, as adults, we lived this too. Yes?
posted by
Greenfields
on September 18, 2008 at 7:06 PM
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We do know better, a broken heart is worse than a broken arm.
posted by
Justi
on September 18, 2008 at 6:33 PM
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I always wondered why we say that to kids.
because we know better.
posted by
shelly_b
on September 18, 2008 at 6:11 PM
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Watch what you say that it does not come back to you.
posted by
Justi
on September 18, 2008 at 12:43 PM
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