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lindo
I have been quite busy, and I am just catching up here! There is no need to repeat what others have already expressed so eloquently, but I do want to urge you to see a doctor who takes his profession seriously! And I do wish you well from the bottom of my heart...
posted by
Nautikos
on January 23, 2008 at 6:46 PM
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lindo
sorry you are suffering. As others have suggested a good medical exam is a start. If I can take the liberty, in my view, some it may have to do with the many unresolved things in your life. Conflicts create stress on the body. Maybe consulting a healer or a therapist may be a good idea?
posted by
Greenfields
on January 22, 2008 at 9:16 PM
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Do not allow anyone to deprive you
of the right to speak up when you hurt...whether it is in your head or not. saying that there is a problem is the first step in fixing it and pain, no matter physical or emotional, is a sign that something is wrong. I wish for you peace and the return of your daydreams.
Mike's Goddess
posted by
mikes_goddess
on January 20, 2008 at 3:14 PM
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Thanks Everyone for sharing your experinces and thoughts with me
I feel so much better already knowing that even though there is no one in my immediate enviroment that understands me, you were there for me with your wisdom, understanding and concern. I have consulted another doctor as many of you have suggested, he was an old man too, but he took the time to ask me about my diet, mdication I was taking and gave me a thorough examintation and did not jump to conclusion. the best thing of all is that he may have found out what is "wrong" but it will take some time to see if his guess was correct. Anyway, just having someone take my ailments seriously has been a huge morale booster.
Again, thanks again for not letting me give up on the hope of getting better. Love to you all.
posted by
lindo
on January 18, 2008 at 8:56 AM
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They may be right.
It may be wrong thinking that is depressing you. Theirs! This is no time for patronizing, uninformed men to take it upon themselves to pronounce you a silly woman.
It's possible your weariness may stem from a chemical imbalance - a lack of seratonin or other chemicals in your brain. When I went through a seige of clinical depression, I was full of resentment, hostility, a lack of patience with fools (and we all run into many of them in life) and a sense that it was never going to get better, there was no hope. I had no energy, dragged one foot in front of the other. Vitamins didn't help. The understanding and support of others didn't help. Medication helped. Six weeks later I was feeling good again, laughing at little problems that had defeated me. As others have suggested, you must see another doctor, get a scientific diagnosis.
posted by
Pat_B
on January 18, 2008 at 7:22 AM
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lindo, physical things can have psychological consequences, too.
One doctor sat me down and wanted to be my friend. I had friends, I wanted a real exam and tests and solutions. I moved on to another doctor. Female doctors are often best for women in many cases as they have heard it all and seen it all and healed most of it, many times over.
My Mexican sister suffers as you do, from Older men and doctors who rule the roost, telling her what is going on in her life. She does her own living, within their constraints and takes care of herself, or she cannot care for others.
My sister who is married to an Irani here in the US, she also has learned to go her own way, within the constraints of her marriage and has liberated her husband by doing so. He is much more American now and accepts that she knows what is best for her part of her life....as it is hers and she must live it. Husbands do want healthy wives to raise their children and must allow their wives to be diagnosed and to heal.
My best wishes to you and to your life's partner, may he see some of this logic......
posted by
benzinha
on January 17, 2008 at 11:21 AM
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Whilst I would usually agree with the "doctor" it is not wise to ignore
the physical symptoms of your "blues". I would visit a medical doctor pronto; I am sure once your physical problems are dealt with you will be able to better cope with your real problems. I wish you strength and perseverance; light and love
posted by
mariaki
on January 17, 2008 at 3:41 AM
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Bhaskar
Thank you so much, it helps to know someone does not think i'm imagining all this, i'm really tired of being told that this is just the blues. Regards to you my guru.
posted by
lindo
on January 17, 2008 at 12:50 AM
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lindoG
I hope what the F-i-L's friend cardiologist said were true and I be proved wrong. But you must immediately consult a good doctor and start medication, if required. Pls do not ignore, nor accept with humility that you are denied the right to say "I am in pain". Be well and hearty
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posted by
Bhaskar.ing
on January 16, 2008 at 9:05 PM
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