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Ohmy, Military_Wife
Wellllllllll! This blog sure has taken an interesting turn! LOL
I'm sure everything will be okay. At least you know there's nothing wrong with you (kind of LOL).
posted by
Joe_Love
on January 19, 2006 at 4:50 PM
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Military Wife you just need to pray God grant me patience
and I want it right now:)
posted by
jollyjeff
on January 18, 2006 at 2:22 PM
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MW, feel better soon..
he has been home only a month, and your reactions are natural. You should be feeling ok in a bit, just get yourself checked about any other possible causes.HUGs, meringue
posted by
Meringue
on January 17, 2006 at 7:32 PM
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posted by
homegirl
on January 17, 2006 at 12:58 PM
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No words of wisdom, just a big cyber hug! {{{{{{{{{{{{{MW}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Keep posting, you're going to make it through this too.
posted by
Nancy-R-H
on January 17, 2006 at 11:45 AM
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Jeff
I am working with a therapist, he keeps telling me to be patient. patience has never been at the top of my list LOL
posted by
Bel_
on January 17, 2006 at 11:36 AM
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Pat_B
Thank you very much
posted by
Bel_
on January 17, 2006 at 11:35 AM
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Makes perfect sense to me
you've been living in constant fear of losing your husband. That would drive anyone crazy. Maybe some therapy would help?
posted by
jollyjeff
on January 17, 2006 at 9:04 AM
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short answer:
fear of loss, coupled with memories of actual loss during times when your beloved had to be absent, adds up to fear of being close because it makes you so much more vulnerable to losing the closeness again. It's pure anxiety and it can indeed make you irrational and emotional and hating what you love most. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. The extreme peaks and valleys will level off eventually. Trust yourself. You'll make it.
posted by
Pat_B
on January 17, 2006 at 8:51 AM
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Bright
It is g ood to be back, thank you.
posted by
Bel_
on January 17, 2006 at 8:15 AM
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MilitaryWife
Good Morning! It is so great to see you here again! I'm sad that you are going through so much but I see your working with a doctor and you are a strong woman and will overcome this. You have been through a lot while Carl was away and I'm sure you had many hidden emotions that are surfacing now. Take Care and God Bless!
posted by
BrightIrish
on January 17, 2006 at 8:01 AM
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Tapsel
Thank you so very much
posted by
Bel_
on January 17, 2006 at 6:42 AM
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Wifey,
YOU ARE always very welcome!!!!!!!...
posted by
Jaxson-Pete
on January 17, 2006 at 6:37 AM
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Military_Wife,
I'm so sorry that you are going through this after all the waiting for so long. It is not surprising to me that this would happen to a military wife. Though combat is a great stressor for PTSD, as is rape and violence, it is not tops on the list of stressors. What comes out at the very top of the list of stressors is simply unpredictability and uncontrollibility. You were faced with both of these for so long. You had no control over your married life with Carl and though you prayed for his safety and return, there was no way that you could predict what would happen. It will take time. See your doctor. Take care of yourself. I wish you the best.
posted by
TAPS.
on January 17, 2006 at 6:16 AM
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Jax
I am at a los for words, yours touched me so deeply, so I'll leave it at thank you.
posted by
Bel_
on January 17, 2006 at 5:45 AM
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Shadow
You make a good point that I never considered, I am going to ask my doctor about this. Thank you.
posted by
Bel_
on January 17, 2006 at 5:43 AM
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Avant
You are so often a man of few words, yet as always, they are packed full of widsom. Thank you
posted by
Bel_
on January 17, 2006 at 5:42 AM
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Babe
I am working on it thank you.
posted by
Bel_
on January 17, 2006 at 5:41 AM
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Maggie
When people speak of gentle souls, you always come to mind for me. Thank you so much.
posted by
Bel_
on January 17, 2006 at 5:40 AM
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Blanche
you said it just fine. Thank you so very much.
posted by
Bel_
on January 17, 2006 at 5:39 AM
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Offbeats
I am actually working with someone who has experience with PTSD. He says that I probably am not the exception to the rule for military wives but one that actually spoke up and said "Hey something isn't right here". Actually I didn't say it myself, Carl did. He noticed I was having a hard time and having ALOT of nightmares and insisted I didn't ignore them.
Thanks so much hon
posted by
Bel_
on January 17, 2006 at 5:37 AM
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Wifey,
Honey, give yourself a break. After all you've been through with Carl gone, I'm not surprised to hear that now that he's back you've got PTSD. Makes sense to me. Hell, I'd be worrried if ya didn't have some! You are not crazy, just VERY human......you think, you feel, you react..........both consciously and subconciously. I'm not trying to minimize your suffering, I understand it's there and it's not easy to deal with........ but give it time and it'll get better...for crying out loud, he's only been home a little over a month. Don't be so hard on yourself or so critical of youself.......be proud that you're in touch with your feelings. Get it out, and remember you have lots of friends here on Blogit that care and will gladly support you. ....Girl, I remember how you were there for me.....I'd be honored to be able to return the favor.
posted by
Jaxson-Pete
on January 17, 2006 at 5:26 AM
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MW,
So glad to have you back girl, but hate to hear about the PTSD. That's a hard hard challenge to overcome, but you have the will and spirit. See your medical doctor for a good physical first. There may also be a problem like a early change of life here affecting you with all the negativity of the last year. Shadow
posted by
Keshet
on January 16, 2006 at 12:44 PM
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military wife
You experienced the horrors of war yourself. It is not surprising what you feel.
posted by
avant-garde
on January 16, 2006 at 11:59 AM
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I overheard my dad tell someone he dreamed every night for fifty years about Okinawa. I used to have nightmares about high school and college, that I had enrolled in classes I hadn't attended and was going to fail. Not sure if this would help everybody, but when I told someone about these dreams and they admitted they too had them.....I quit having them. Not sure why.
posted by
babe_rocks
on January 16, 2006 at 10:18 AM
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Hi, MW, WoW, who would have thought that you would be having this
problem? I think you just need to have Carl all to yourself for a while, without all the relatives and the hoopla, and you'll be ok. You've been running since Thanksgiving when you found out he was coming home and you probably haven't stopped. You just need some quality time with him, and maybe a little therapy, and you'll make it. Look what you've just been through for the past year, anybody would need an adjustment.
I'm going to keep an eye on you, pray for you, and hope you're getting better, "Hun". You know we all love you and only want the best for you and Carl. Give yourself some time. 
posted by
MaggieMae
on January 16, 2006 at 4:47 AM
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Military Wife,
You've been through a lot: worry, fear, anxiety that Carl might not make it home, and managed to make it through all that intact, but that doesn't mean that it didn't take its toll on you emotionally. I don't know what to say but that it can't be easy.
posted by
Blanche.
on January 16, 2006 at 1:42 AM
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Trudy
Good grief....this isn't good news. I sure hope your seeing a doctor about this matter. It's very odd and I can totally see why your confused. It just doesn't make sense, maybe what food 4 thought said has something to it. I just hope you get better soon, panic attacks are Gawd awful and they can dominate your life. You know Carl loves you more than anything and you him, so maybe together you two will have to get through this..I sure do pray you my friend!!
posted by
Offy
on January 16, 2006 at 12:13 AM
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food4thought
thank you so very much
posted by
Bel_
on January 16, 2006 at 12:04 AM
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Military Wife...
I have been out of the military since 1969 and I still occasionaly have dreams that through some loopehole, I have been called back to active duty. This of course, is impossible, but that doesn't seem to matter in my dreams. I don't know your situation, but I suppose you could subconsciously be afraid your husband could be sent overseas again. You may be fearing that eventuality and the further stress it would bring. He made it back and now your senses are overloaded, give them time, take little steps to grow closer. We humans can adapt to almost anything, but we don't all do it at the same speed. And just think, you get to fall in love all over again.
posted by
food4thought
on January 15, 2006 at 11:40 PM
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