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I bet that IS kind of weird.
Maybe you could just drug him, then position him the way he is SUPPOSED to sleep in the bed. *grin*
posted by
Joe_Love
on September 12, 2005 at 11:59 PM
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Jeff
I suspect you are very right about that.
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:54 PM
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Amatuer
Thanks for taking the time to read. We are finding our way, things are different but life is about change and growth.
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:53 PM
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Maggie
We always manage to find our way together. Thanks hon
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:53 PM
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Midnight
Mouse breath...that is not nice
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:52 PM
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word.smith
I am enjoying him
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:51 PM
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Witchy
We are working on healing together, this year has taken a toll on us and these few days that we have are a reminder that eventually life will be semi normal again. Thank you
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:51 PM
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MayB
As for the friend...I genuinely feel bad for her, but I have also come to the point that I refuse to let her drama take over my life as well.
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:50 PM
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Offbeat
He seems to think my little bitty Aries is made for rough terrain...I told him one more time and I am taking the keys away LOL!
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:49 PM
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Shadow
Nothing feels as good as that relief.
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:48 PM
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Timmy
Thank you. They are working themselves out, we decided not to let it worry us right now as the fact that he has to leave again is an issue and we both suspect it's our way of maintaining our sanity when he has to go again.
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:47 PM
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Steph
Had to find a new home for the cats..they did not take too well to having him here and well...the cats lost that battle.
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:46 PM
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Original
Yep it is kind of an adjustment, but some things never change
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:45 PM
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Kris
things have settled down a great deal. We both also realize that there is a distance right now...it's similar to the same thing we did before he left last year and we understand it's self preservation for the both of us.
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:44 PM
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Moondawg
Glad to see you are back, I hope all is well for you now.
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:43 PM
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Jimson
He is a total pain in my ass the past few days..seems pretty normal to me
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:42 PM
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Midnight
as long as I have that, the rest is just "stuff".
posted by
Bel_
on September 12, 2005 at 3:41 PM
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You would still have changed
if you had been together but the changes wouldn't have been as noticable because they were gradual and you saw each other every day.
posted by
jollyjeff
on September 10, 2005 at 12:04 PM
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There will always be a period of transition for a couple after some time apart. Be patient... I'm sure the routine will set in after some time.
posted by
Amateur
on September 8, 2005 at 11:14 PM
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Don't worry, MW.....
Things always work out in the end! It's an adjustment for both of you.
posted by
MaggieMae
on September 8, 2005 at 3:29 PM
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MW,
don't forget to check for mouse breath !!!!!!
posted by
Jaxson-Pete
on September 7, 2005 at 8:25 PM
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Your regular patterns will fall back in place over time....
Enjoy!
posted by
word.smith
on September 7, 2005 at 7:36 PM
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I'm happy he's home, and I hope he heals.
witchy
posted by
witchywoman
on September 7, 2005 at 6:11 PM
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I think these small changes are only natural but heh just enjoy it all for now and save the analysis for later. It's a shame your friend had to behave like that. She sounds a little insensitive to me
posted by
Azur
on September 7, 2005 at 5:07 PM
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MW
It will probably take some adjustment time on both sides. No doubt in my mind the two of you will be back to the way it was. It will be a matter of time.
What does he think your car can do? Would love to know that!!
posted by
Offy
on September 7, 2005 at 3:04 PM
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MW,
Just relax and remember you both have been tramatized here. Just stay open and patient, it will all "come together" soon. I'm so happy he's home sweetie and with you. Was myself last year worrying and wondering and knowing the relief that my favorite solider was safe and now back home in the states. Shadow
posted by
Keshet
on September 7, 2005 at 3:01 PM
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military
It will all go back to the way that it was........it only takes a little time
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on September 7, 2005 at 2:53 PM
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Military
How are the cats coping?
posted by
mcbreeze
on September 7, 2005 at 1:03 PM
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I can imagine how difficult it must be for you.
Each time one of my kids come back from college, I have to get used to having them home all over again. It must be even more difficult to adjust when it's your spouse!
posted by
Original_Influence
on September 7, 2005 at 12:48 PM
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MW
It sure is nice to cry for happy for a change around here. Carl has got to feel really strange. I know just changing back and forth from my two homes always takes a week or so for me to adjust to - they are such different realities. I can't even begin to imagine the how he must be affected going from such a long stretch in such a completely different culture...I mean, it actually stretches my mind to even try to get around it. Just don't even put much thought into anything until he is back for good and y'all begin to re-establish your for real life together. Meanwhile, just soak up all of each other you can. (((HUG))))
posted by
Krisles
on September 7, 2005 at 12:19 PM
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I'm so very happy to hear
that he's home again. I've been in the hospital for the last three weeks, so have missed out on lots of stuff. Like you said, it's like your in a dream and your afraid to wake up and find it to be just that. No matter what just remember how much you love each other and the things that you missed about each other. There are bound to be changes and differences in both of you, but those things will be absorbed as you again become as one.
posted by
Moondawg
on September 7, 2005 at 12:06 PM
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take it easy, I haven't read all the coments again so I don't know...
what has been said, but it is inevitable that two people grow apart after such a long time away from each other, but you will do fine! It won't be long and you will be used to each other again!
posted by
SomeoneElse
on September 7, 2005 at 10:44 AM
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Military_Wife,
You said it all in the comment................"he's home and safe. Nothing else really matters"..............hugs and much love to both of you!!!!!!!
posted by
Jaxson-Pete
on September 7, 2005 at 10:05 AM
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Queen
thank you so very much for such wonderful and kind words!
posted by
Bel_
on September 7, 2005 at 9:52 AM
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Darling
War changes (to put it mildly) people.....as you well understand. Marriage changes too. People change regardless. Your relationship is in a valley right now......all relationships rise and fall just as a heart beat does on the EKG monitor........such is life. Soon you and hubby will be standing on a mountain top looking back on these days adventurous to take on what lies ahead. There's a lot of love here on the blog.......we got your back baby. It'll be O.K.
posted by
ALWAYSALOVER
on September 7, 2005 at 9:47 AM
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NC
thank you so much.
posted by
Bel_
on September 7, 2005 at 9:24 AM
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Military,
As everyone else here has said, it's just going to take time to get back into your flow. You're both so raw right now from the reunion. Just try to relax and enjoy learning new stuff about one another. I know you are, you're just commenting on how things are different, not complaining. We don't need to tell you that it's all a part of the wonderful homecoming.
posted by
NCwriter
on September 7, 2005 at 9:21 AM
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Hopefully
I have caught up with everyone. If I missed you I am terribly sorry it was not intentional.
posted by
Bel_
on September 7, 2005 at 9:19 AM
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Pat_b
Thank you. There is alot of joy and just plain silliness between us right now...I have to admit to being pretty selfish and forgetting for a bit that there is a national crisis right now.
posted by
Bel_
on September 7, 2005 at 8:52 AM
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How wonderful to have the opportunity to readjust to one another! Lucky you. This is such a fabulous change of pace from stories about Louisiana, Mississippi and Katrina, a counterpoint of joy and sanity...
posted by
Pat_B
on September 7, 2005 at 8:51 AM
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Mia
It is worth every single second and I would not trade a single one of them.
posted by
Bel_
on September 7, 2005 at 8:40 AM
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Military_Wife
It must be a little difficult...but so worth it.
posted by
MiaElla
on September 7, 2005 at 8:39 AM
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Quirky
I do, I am just kind of babbling about it. Maybe I needed to say it to really "see" it. Thanks hon.
posted by
Bel_
on September 7, 2005 at 8:35 AM
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MW--
It's all perfectly normal...while he was away you both established other routines...but you'll get back to your other routine in due time. But then I know you know that.
posted by
Julia.
on September 7, 2005 at 8:33 AM
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Military,
SO TRUE !!!
posted by
SincerityAnna
on September 7, 2005 at 8:31 AM
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Blackcat
I really don't expect to get that in a few short days...but it also helps prepare me for when he comes home to stay. I'm happy to have him here and for the most part we are still who we are....just a little off balance. Thanks hon!
posted by
Bel_
on September 7, 2005 at 8:30 AM
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I'd imagine it takes time to get that comfort level back... he's been gone
a long time and experienced so much without you. It's got to be hard... but you'll get there!
posted by
-blackcat
on September 7, 2005 at 8:27 AM
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Reni
LOL! DON'T give him any ideas!!!!!!!!! He just thinks my little economy car should be able to go through ruts, etc... that are bigger than the car is LOL!
posted by
Bel_
on September 7, 2005 at 8:27 AM
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Anna
I'm not letting it bother me too much...little things are kind of odd, but right now he is home and safe: Nothing else really matters.
posted by
Bel_
on September 7, 2005 at 8:26 AM
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Talion
you are very right. We both realize this is the case and we have talked about it. Neither of us want to put pressure on the other as we realize some of this is probably a way to keep our sanity after he goes back.
posted by
Bel_
on September 7, 2005 at 8:25 AM
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So, is he trying to drive the Honda across the river and shoot
missiles at gas stations? lol
posted by
Renigade
on September 7, 2005 at 8:24 AM
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Military_Wife
He's been under pressure unimaginable for a civilian. Of course it's going to have some noticeable effect on him. The truly frightening thing would be if it didn't effect him.
posted by
Talion
on September 7, 2005 at 8:22 AM
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Military,
These changes are perfectly natural. Go with the flow...and try not to think about it all too much :)
posted by
SincerityAnna
on September 7, 2005 at 8:20 AM
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