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posted by
Jemmie211
on July 13, 2005 at 10:13 PM
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wiley--
and I would definitely accept your supper date--it would be cool to hang out with you!
posted by
Julia.
on July 12, 2005 at 7:31 PM
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Medusa--
thank you--but a "bog" click--what is that?
posted by
Julia.
on July 12, 2005 at 7:30 PM
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word.smith--
well I hope this does not sound lame...but I believe that everything happens in divine timing...and each person's journey is uniquely their own.
posted by
Julia.
on July 12, 2005 at 7:29 PM
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Ca88--
thanks--hope all is well with you!
posted by
Julia.
on July 12, 2005 at 7:28 PM
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Quirkyalone
I admire you luv, truly admire you. If we weren't so far apart I would ask you for a supper date. I'd ask ya to go see Cinderella Man the movie? That is the name right? And it won't take you a lifetime luv, to come into your own. Luv ya kiddo
posted by
WileyJohn
on July 12, 2005 at 9:39 AM
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Quirkyalone....A stunning , honest piece of writing.
Wow. I loved it and was moved. Here's a bog click for you. And thanks for your support yesterday.
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on July 12, 2005 at 8:50 AM
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I believe writing is a form of purging our souls.
Some of us - myself included - have not yet got to the point where we put down our innermost thoughts and feelings of inadequacy and rejection. You are doing that and that takes courage and strength of will.
posted by
word.smith
on July 12, 2005 at 6:48 AM
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Very touching. You will make it.
posted by
Ca88andra
on July 12, 2005 at 3:30 AM
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Ms N--
Yes, I AM a character...lol.
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 9:34 PM
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Imprints on the soul = character
and you have that my friend!
posted by
Transcendental_Child
on July 11, 2005 at 9:19 PM
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Jimmy--
Okay...got to get the motor running first.
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 8:49 PM
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Factor--
thank you. I'm not sure why I did this in third-person, really--perhaps it was an attempt to distance myself from the material...I originally wrote it first person and rewrote it this way.
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 8:48 PM
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OBP,
It's not going anywhere...
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 8:45 PM
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shadow--
will a trail of nuts help?
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 8:44 PM
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Keep on Truckin' Quirky...peace...
posted by
jimmy68
on July 11, 2005 at 8:32 PM
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Quirky
You did this well. I have heard people say that writing in the first person can be so much more effective. But I have to tell you that when I reached the part about the freezer I felt like I had no air in my lungs. I'd say third person worked quite well...
And on a more personal note 
posted by
FactorFiction
on July 11, 2005 at 6:02 PM
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Quirky
At last, now I have a lot of reading material to catch up on!!
posted by
Offy
on July 11, 2005 at 5:58 PM
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Quirky,
That's my girl, keep marching strong and steady toward the light. Then do me a favor and throw back a line (or leave a trail of breadcrumbs) for me when you reach it so I can stay on track also. 
Shadow
posted by
Keshet
on July 11, 2005 at 5:54 PM
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blackcat--
well, better late than never, hehe! You really should catch up, though! ;-)
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 5:50 PM
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Merry--
I can understand why they don't want to...it's much easier not to...but not better for you in the long run.
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 5:49 PM
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shadow--
yes, I can actually see the light at the end of the tunnel.
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 5:48 PM
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Quirky...
Wow, I don't think I've read one of your serious posts before. I don't know how, but you will persevere. The only thing I believe can possibly help is by talking about it, or by using your experiences to help others through similar circumstances. We're here for you.
posted by
-blackcat
on July 11, 2005 at 4:11 PM
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Quirky,
the fact that you want rise above your scars is an indication of the wonderful spirit that you have. Most people would never even try.
posted by
MerryAnne
on July 11, 2005 at 3:13 PM
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Quirky,
Yes, its very hard to keep the negative imprints from haunting you. Great post and don't ever think that writing about your fears and fustrations are in vain. Writing and talking about it may eventually give you the right answers and then someday glorious peace of mind. Shadow
posted by
Keshet
on July 11, 2005 at 3:09 PM
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girly,
I have wondered that too...do we embellish because that is how we think it happened, but it didn't really?? Who knows. I'd guess this does happen a lot...the mind remembers something but it may not be 100% true.
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 11:26 AM
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David--woof woof!
Here wittle puppy, let me scratch you behind the ears!
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 11:24 AM
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does it ever feel unreal?
Sometimes I wonder if I have imagined stuff that has happened in my life...is it real, or did it not really happen?Anyhow, you've got a lot on your plate, huh. I don't suppose that there is any way to "get over" a rough beginning like that but compensatory skills are what pulls you through. How you deal with it is how you improve upon your situation. I hope the present and future bring you better times. Love, GG
posted by
buttsup
on July 11, 2005 at 11:23 AM
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Quirky
Like I said before, underneath that ranting is a very lovable pup!
posted by
David1Spirit
on July 11, 2005 at 11:20 AM
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David--
"Great Comment"--lol, I know how you feel about that. But thanks for your kind words, you're actually very nice underneath that crusty exterior!
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 11:18 AM
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I don't know how I would have handled things
I can only imagine what you feel everyday. But you are getting on with your life, and you are kind and funny and a great person to call a friend!
posted by
David1Spirit
on July 11, 2005 at 11:09 AM
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dejtemper--
yes, everyone has a choice!! Not all make the choice to accept what is, and be happy regardless. I admit that I struggle with it all the time, and even though I know choosing happiness is the best course of action...at times it's easier said than done. Thanks for your comment!
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 10:32 AM
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Do we have a choice?
I really give it a shot. We have to accept what happens to us. I guess you can choose not to, and commit suicide, take your chances on the "other side". But, boy is that a selfish act. I have gone through some really bad things, and still am. I really try to get the most out of everything. I love life!!!
posted by
dejtemper
on July 11, 2005 at 10:23 AM
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dejtemper,
you sound like you have a good outlook on life!
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 10:14 AM
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Military Wife,
yes, what comes "after the fact" is very important. thanks for reading.
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 10:13 AM
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Re: No, you can't just "wish away" the unwelcome imprints upon your soul
I enjoyed this. The imprints upon my soul are embraced. At times, I do not readily do so. I find that to be a detriment. The older I have gotten, the more accepting I try to be of the things I am dealt. It is hard, I do not always succeed, but my journey is fun, and I enjoy myself. Thanks for this good one.
posted by
dejtemper
on July 11, 2005 at 10:02 AM
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MayB--thanks.
It's true, every experience is imprinted to some degree or another.
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 9:56 AM
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mmm-w,
oh thank you so much--I'm deeply touched by your comment.
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 9:55 AM
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This is wonderful. Yes those imprints certainly have an effect. How we deal with them tells a much bigger story.
posted by
Bel_
on July 11, 2005 at 9:54 AM
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frankk--
I was just saying that to MysticG--acknowledgement is the first step. I'm probably one of those people that make many people feel better about their own life, because its not nearly so %$@#&!
Thanks for reading and commenting.
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 9:53 AM
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Even the little awkward moments that you would wish away cannot be removed. We all have them. Nice work
posted by
Azur
on July 11, 2005 at 9:48 AM
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i was deeply touched by this post.... the third person works well for you. (i like writing in it from time to time. good writing excercise....)
so chilling to read... i am so sad for the little girl of you who still lives inside. you are so correct, those imprints never fade.
posted by
mmm-w
on July 11, 2005 at 9:48 AM
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Quirkyalone
Sometimes the best you can hope for is to learn to live with your demons.
Acknowledging them is the first step towards taking some of their power
away..The extremity of your situation makes for compelling reading because
others with less dramatic problems still recognize themselves in your
struggle. You do a service for them and yourself in writing about it..
posted by
frankk
on July 11, 2005 at 9:44 AM
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MysticG--
thanks...wonderful commentary...before one can find peace, it is necessary to *really* look at what is imprinted upon the soul (imo)...many people never take that first step.
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 9:43 AM
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Ariala--
I was just experimenting with third person, "trying it on" so to speak. The second part of your comment is so true--we must always find ways to cope.
posted by
Julia.
on July 11, 2005 at 9:40 AM
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Quirky
you cannot wish away the unwelcome imprints on your soul but you can be at peace with them. AMEN, and then they will be used for the benefit of others....but No, we never get that far away from the original wound, and teh cloak of shame is always hanging in the closet ready for us to pull out and wrap around ourselves with memories if we choose. Excellent post!
posted by
MysticGmekeepr
on July 11, 2005 at 9:35 AM
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I find it interesting that you wrote this in the third person...Though many
things stay imprinted upon our souls, we find new ways of coping, understanding and living with what we can't change.
posted by
Ariala
on July 11, 2005 at 9:32 AM
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