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posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 11:22 PM
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Hmmmm...
To answer the question,
"Would you want to be able to make choices knowing how they would alter the course of your life?" That is a tough one. To answer that as spiritual clergy, I'd answer no, because if we could know how our decisions would alter the course of our life all the time, we wouldn't be living this physical life. Hence, that is why psychics cannot be psychic for ourselves. It would defeat our purpose for living this life. To answer the question as a regular person (if that's possible for me) I'd say, Hell, yeah!!
posted by
SpitFire70
on August 4, 2004 at 11:16 PM
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Pete, not necessarily that we've done everything right but we accept
that this is the choice we made at the time. But you're right, we can always strive to make better choices.
posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 9:05 PM
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Shadow, nor does it hurt to dream...
posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 9:01 PM
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Quirky, I would change a few things.
To say you wouldn't, would be to say you've done everything right. Who can say that, and if someone can, don't we always strive for better?
posted by
PetePonders
on August 4, 2004 at 8:43 PM
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Quirk,
Yeah, probably right, but doesn't hurt to speculate. shadow
posted by
Keshet
on August 4, 2004 at 8:31 PM
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Ariala, yeah that does make it difficult sometimes to act kindly.
Or at least to *think* before acting unkindly.
posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 7:31 PM
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Shadow, I'm kinda leaning toward agreeing with Qwerty, though,
that even if we took a "do-over" the universe would see to it that we ended up in the same place. I don't know, though.
posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 7:30 PM
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Quirky, I've rarely done it intentionally, but a few times I did because I
was lashing out due to my own pain.
posted by
Ariala
on August 4, 2004 at 7:30 PM
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Ariala, intentional...or unintentional/unavoidable??
posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 7:28 PM
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Quirk,
Yes, I'd like to go back 1 year ago and know what I know now for sure. I guarantee I would have made some very different choices. shadow
posted by
Keshet
on August 4, 2004 at 7:26 PM
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Quirky, more than I'd like to admit.
posted by
Ariala
on August 4, 2004 at 7:21 PM
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Ariala, first, hurting people is an unavoidable fact of life,
and second, I seriously doubt that there were that many. But it's nice that you thought about doing that.
posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 7:08 PM
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If I could, I would go back and change some choices I made that hurt
other people. I've made many, so I'd have to just start my life over again.
posted by
Ariala
on August 4, 2004 at 4:04 PM
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T99,
That seems a clear case when hindsight would have been beneficial to your family. Had you known what the autopsy revealed, you would have made different decisions. I'm sorry to hear of your loss.
posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 4:02 PM
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Wilds,
I agree…but one can think about "changing a choice" and have it not necessarily be about regrets.
posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 4:02 PM
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Groucho,
deciding to try something you didn't IS changing a choice!! Your choice was not to do a particular thing, and you wonder what would have happened if you had. Actually the second part of my question to RAD was "What is something you wish you had done, but didn't." Your answer fits that to a T!
posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 4:01 PM
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Scriber, sure…but would you choose it now if you could??
posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 4:00 PM
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Kay, thanks, I'll go check it out!
posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 4:00 PM
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Qwerty,
your comment has really started the wheels churning in my head. You've planted so many "what if's" and I have no way to really arrive at an answer or an opinion. I find the "free will" concept intriguing and have thought about it a lot over the years.
posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 3:59 PM
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I would have pushed for another opinion in 1988 when my brother was diagnosed terminal. We found out during the autopsy that had he had a lung removed, it would have removed *all* of the tumors. He might not still be alive today, but he could have had a few more years......instead of five months.
--T99
posted by
Tamara99
on August 4, 2004 at 2:44 PM
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Quirks
I don't waste a lot of time with regrets. One can only move forward.
posted by
Wildwoman_Laloba
on August 4, 2004 at 12:37 PM
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i am married
not a day goes by when i don't think, shit i should have done this instead of that, or i should have said this or not said that! Remember the infamous throwing-out-the-new-hats post??!!
okay seriously -- i have to fight very hard not to live in the house of regret. not easy to do. it's not so much changing a choice as much as deciding to try thing i didn't try -- like apply to more than one college, or jazz band in 7th grade. I have wondered if i'd pressed my parents if i could have auditioned for LaGuardia High School for Music and Art and Performing Arts (the school that is the subject of the film/tv series Fame). we were no longer living in nyc but i wonder if they'd let me stay with my grandmother. but again that's all not about choice, that's about dreams lost or deferred. oh well, i'll get back to you. tg
posted by
tbgroucho
on August 4, 2004 at 12:33 PM
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I think we can all think of the path not chosen; love scriber
posted by
scriber
on August 4, 2004 at 12:05 PM
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RachelAnna, excellent way to put it, and I agree
with you wholeheartedly. Thanks for commenting!
posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 12:00 PM
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Sometimes I think that there are things I would like to go back and change, but then I might not be where I'm at today. So, no I wouldn't change anything. Because of the mistakes I used to make constantly I started using a Tarot Card Spread that helped me see the different angles. Go to My Favorite Tarot Card Spread- Helps Me See If I'm About To Screw Up I posted it if you want to try it. Great post.
posted by
Kay-Ren
on August 4, 2004 at 11:31 AM
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I'm assuming
when I go back, I don't lose knowledge of what happened afterwards, although if I TRULY went back I'd lose the knowledge of the future of that outcome.
I'd like to change a few choices just to see what the eventual outcomes would be. One little choice could change your life, or it could not make any difference at all. It may be the case that whatever choices we make, we end up in the same situation we are currently occupying. Makes a point about whether or not we have "free will".
posted by
qwertyui
on August 4, 2004 at 10:26 AM
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I don't think there is an experience
I would do any differently. Of course, in the difficult moments we wish we could, but I think we make certain choices to end up in a certain place eventually even if we don't realize the path we're on at the time. Great post, thanks!
posted by
RachelAnna
on August 4, 2004 at 10:21 AM
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Talion, very well said! The fabric of our lives is woven through each
experience, but it all adds up to one fabulous tapestry!! I like you just the way you are as well.
posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 9:50 AM
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Quirk
There are some things I wish I could go back and change, but even if it was possible, I couldn't take the chance. Our decisions become woven into the tapestry of our lives. One "stitch" leads to another and that one leads to another, etc. Changing one choice would by default change all other decisions that came after it. It would start a chain reaction that could result in me being a completely different type of person in a completely different set of circumstances. I'm not perfect, but I'm glad I am who and what I am. I can't take that risk.
posted by
Talion
on August 4, 2004 at 9:43 AM
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nevertheless, I haven't seen that, but now I want to see if I can
find it, as it sounds good. Do you know who is in it??
posted by
Julia.
on August 4, 2004 at 9:25 AM
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Ever see the movie Run Lola Run? It shows how the slightest change in timing or action can alter someone's life. And its a pretty good movie.
posted by
nevertheless
on August 4, 2004 at 9:07 AM
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