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posted by Quirkyalone at 11:46 AM Comments (38) (permalink) <<<<<<
Unless you have a bunch of identities (including MINE), someone else is responding to you.
posted by
Tamara99
on July 22, 2004 at 9:59 AM
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Wilds, thanks, luv. Much appreciated.
posted by
Julia.
on July 21, 2004 at 3:33 PM
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Quirks
well written post, as always. *hugs*
posted by
Wildwoman_Laloba
on July 21, 2004 at 12:30 PM
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T99, I'm not alone? Do you know something I don't?
Pray tell, enlighten the quirkster.
posted by
Julia.
on July 21, 2004 at 12:18 PM
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nevertheless...so, are you saying that I should try to
see that it is all about them, and nothing about me??
posted by
Julia.
on July 21, 2004 at 12:17 PM
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I believe it's time for you to change your name. You're still Quirky, but you're not alone.
--T99
posted by
Tamara99
on July 21, 2004 at 11:22 AM
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It depends on your sense of self, your emotional security. If you really think about why someone is saying hurtful words to you--I mean really try to understand why--you will end up feeling sorry for them, pitying them. You wouldn't be hurt at all by them if you could understand.
posted by
nevertheless
on July 21, 2004 at 11:02 AM
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Quirky,
No problem just let me know. You will like this turn of events for sure. shadow
posted by
Keshet
on July 21, 2004 at 10:55 AM
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harveyg, no, not the microwave!!! (more like the shredder??)
posted by
Julia.
on July 21, 2004 at 10:54 AM
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shadow, no not right now.
posted by
Julia.
on July 21, 2004 at 10:53 AM
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Quirky,
A powerful statement after a great amount of soul-searching and self anaysis. Welcome from the iceberg into the microwave!
posted by
HarveyG
on July 21, 2004 at 10:34 AM
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Hey Quirk,
How's it going? Are you where you can e-mail? No, probably not right now. Anyway, let me know when you can. new development.shadow
posted by
Keshet
on July 21, 2004 at 10:10 AM
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RAD, thanks. Not yet, but soon I'm sure.
posted by
Julia.
on July 21, 2004 at 10:03 AM
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gheeghee, I think that is exactly why I stayed inside the iceberg.
I fear love more than death.
posted by
Julia.
on July 21, 2004 at 10:02 AM
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Spitfire, I'm positive that you are right about everyone
experiencing the power words have to hurt them, at the very least, one time in their life...and often, over and over. Maybe they aren't getting the lesson the first time. That's the question I've been asking myself.
posted by
Julia.
on July 21, 2004 at 10:01 AM
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Belle, yeah, isn't it strange how words can still hurt even when the
person didn't necessarily mean for them to, or was aware of their power?
posted by
Julia.
on July 21, 2004 at 9:59 AM
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Wiley, thanks for the vote of confidence, I wish I could say that I
believe I'm stronger than the words. Well, I try to be, and that's the best I can do at this time.
posted by
Julia.
on July 21, 2004 at 9:58 AM
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shadow, thank you for your wonderful comment. It's true that, sometimes,
to be deep inside the iceberg seems preferable to what is on the outside. I'm just taking it day by day.
posted by
Julia.
on July 21, 2004 at 9:56 AM
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It is always sad when words hurt feelings
I hope you feel better now.
posted by
Runs_at_dawn
on July 21, 2004 at 8:10 AM
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stay out of the ice, Quirky~ability to feel intense pain is the prelude to feeling intense love
posted by
Gheeghee
on July 21, 2004 at 5:45 AM
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I think all of us have experienced memorable harsh words at one time
or another. Unfortunately, it's part of life and can shape one's personality and feelings throughout the growing up process and on into adulthood. When I was around 13 or 14, I was teased cause I was flat-chested. ("The walls are jealous") which made me so self conscious about my size. I always thought about getting breast enhancements, but suddenly, when I turned about 20 years old, by boobs had some sort of miricle growing spurt and now I realize it was a good thing I didn't get fake boobs! I think everything happens for a reason (not just bigger boobs) but to teach us certain lessons in life. Mostly, what's important, superficial, unimportant, irrevlevant, and useful. I think many of us just need to learn certain things the hard way so it makes that much more of an impact upon us.
posted by
SpitFire70
on July 20, 2004 at 11:08 PM
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Nice post
It is amazing the impact that some words have on us. I recently saw a teacher of mine who had said some lousy remark about me. He was perfectly friendly and oblivious to how his words stayed with me.
posted by
beachbelle
on July 20, 2004 at 11:08 PM
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QuirkyAlone
As Kipling said: "Words are the most poweful drug used by mankind." How true, and I'm happy you are stronger than words.
posted by
WileyJohn
on July 20, 2004 at 8:09 PM
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Quirk,
At least you are strong enough to face the challenge and refuse to give up, to survive. I'd rather live in the iceberg myself. Words do hurt. Words should form the sentences that are suppose to say good things to you and about you, not lies, not negative, but good stuff. As long as I keep the ice cold enough inside then even the hot poker can't melt the ice. The ice will just cool of the poker because its stonger than the steel. love shadow
posted by
Keshet
on July 20, 2004 at 7:53 PM
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Sassy, or in my case, a hot poker from the fire.
posted by
Julia.
on July 20, 2004 at 7:10 PM
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Words can be more powerful
then physical pain, especially when those words cut like a knife and dig straight to your soul.
posted by
Sherri_G
on July 20, 2004 at 6:48 PM
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Original, thanks...you are right, of course.
posted by
Julia.
on July 20, 2004 at 6:48 PM
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Hang in there....the only validation we need is from ourselves!
posted by
Original_Influence
on July 20, 2004 at 5:53 PM
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kidnykid, thanks for visiting. I suppose this state is preferable to the
ice, but it's not easy.
posted by
Julia.
on July 20, 2004 at 3:32 PM
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I can relate too
When my parents were alive, I was the original ice princess, erupting occasionally like a volcano because I couldn't handle such deep repression. Now, I'm open to everything, hurt and pain included.
posted by
kidnykid
on July 20, 2004 at 12:40 PM
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I completely agree!
posted by
RachelAnna
on July 20, 2004 at 12:13 PM
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A--just a wild guess...short??
posted by
Julia.
on July 20, 2004 at 12:12 PM
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katray, the ice won't claim me if I have anything to say about it, and I
hold onto the vision of future joy and thrills. Thanks. I'll look for your post later.
posted by
Julia.
on July 20, 2004 at 12:11 PM
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RachelAnna, I would go one step further and include even those
words said silently to oneself, for the object of this derision can feel them and know they were said, even if not on a conscious level.
posted by
Julia.
on July 20, 2004 at 12:09 PM
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I've been called short all my life, and guess what now I am.
posted by
Ariala
on July 20, 2004 at 12:07 PM
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I can relate Quirky dear. A few minutes ago, before reading this, I found an old poem I had written a few years ago that is somewhat related. I'll post it later this evening. It was during a time of blowing whistles loud and clear about certain teenagers and what was going on in our normally staid, quiet neighborhood. Not only did the kids hurl cruel words, so did several adults in the vicinity. And they hurt deeply, even though I knew I was right and later had validation from police action. Glad you're not retreating into that ice sheltered world. It is tempting when the aches begin, but just remember how intense the joys and thrills will be also.
posted by
Katray2
on July 20, 2004 at 12:04 PM
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I was told when I was five years old
by a friend of mine that I had big thighs. I didn't, she just had really skinny ones. So, she was the freak. Anyway, I still have issues with that and STILL think I have fat thighs. It's amazing the impact of words, even those spoken long ago, can have. I think it's important to teach kids that every word they speak aloud has a consequence, even if they don't realize it.
posted by
RachelAnna
on July 20, 2004 at 12:01 PM
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RachelAnna...good for you for instilling that message in them,
I sure hope they listen to you and can act accordingly. I do think the emotional damage inflicted by words can be a thousand times worse than any physical damage. The scars run much deeper, all the way to the soul.
posted by
Julia.
on July 20, 2004 at 11:57 AM
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You're right!
I tell my kids that all the time. My oldest daughter is at the age where kids start to get really mean (meaner, maybe?) and I tell her she needs to be careful because a seemingly harmless comment can forever change who a person is, and she doesn't want to be responsible for someone not feeling good about themselves in ten, twenty, or even thirty years. The power words hold is amazing...
posted by
RachelAnna
on July 20, 2004 at 11:51 AM
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