Tuesday, July 29, 2003
Dealing with Boredom.
If you are bored, you are vulnerable to relapse. You need to either get a job, or get a life. If nothing else go to meetings. Think of all the things you did when you were clean. Remember some of the ambitions you had as a child before you started using. Try some of those things. Find a friend in...
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Monday, July 28, 2003
Becoming a Person
Many addicts with or without drugs have low self esteem and aren't very good at standing up for themselves. They are either too passive or agressive. When we get clean and sober we have the opportunity to address our passivity and agressiveness. We can learn to be assertive and stand up for...
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Saturday, July 26, 2003
Finding a Higher Power
People who are new to recovery find it very hard to find a higher power. They think that they have to believe in something. But faith is not an intellectual belief but trust that a power greater than myself can help me. I can't help myself, I need help, so if I'm going to get help I need to get it...
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Thursday, July 24, 2003
I got your attention.
This column works best if I write everyday. However, due to my schedule I haven't been able to write daily. I will try to write as often as possible. The purpose of this column is to encourage those who are recovering from drug and alcohol use. It is designed to be like a daily meditation. I am a...
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Wednesday, July 23, 2003
Does this column have readers?
I've noticed that my ratings don't go up much if I write, so I'm considering ending this column. However, if you read my column and want me to continue, let me know and I will. I can't write everyday because I travel and can't always used the computer. Unfortunately, bloggingnetwork.com doesn't have...
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Tuesday, July 22, 2003
How do you handle confrontation?
None of us like to be told that we're screwing up. In recovery, we need to be confronted with our character defects and our self-defeating ways of dealing with life. Otherwise, we will endanger our sobriety. If we reply with gratitude when someone corrects us, then we are doing well, if we get...
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Sunday, July 20, 2003
Counting the days
Even though we stay clean and sober one day at a time, there is something satisfying about counting up our clean and sober time. In addition, if we work the steps during those days, our time counts or something else. It means emotional maturity and gaining tools to live life without drugs and to be...
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Saturday, July 19, 2003
One of the most important and hardest things is honesty
But without it--you will never stay clean or sober. Honesty helps you defeat your denial system which works full time. I don't understand the why of denial--but it is always there. Even if you've admitted to being an addict/alcoholic, you will deny how bad it was, how boring, painful, unpleasant...
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Tuesday, July 8, 2003
Writing the First Step
Do you need to write the first step? No, but it helps. Right now you can remember all the reasons why you want to stop drinking/using. Later on when your life is good, you may think that you can use once or drink a glass of wine once in a while. That is why a well written first step is helpful....
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Sunday, July 6, 2003
Where your focus should be
In recovery, your focus should be on yourself. That is confusing. We are encouraged to turn our lives over to God and we are encouraged to help others. So what does it mean to focus on ourselves. It means to do our own work. Often when we are new in recovery we are comparing ourselves to others. We...
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