"I picture Cully tromping through that high, deep snow. That's how I feel physically from all of this. Moving through grief like it's a thick drift, exhausting but enlivening. It makes your muscles ache. It makes you feel you've inhabited your body completely." - Kaui Hart Hemmings - The... Sign in to see full entry.
Sunday, December 25, 2022
Saturday, December 24, 2022
"People grieve in different ways, some silently, some in anger, some in spite. Rarely does grief bring out the best in people, despite what local historians like to tell you." - Joanne Harris, Five Quarters of the Orange You may miss the "real you", that person you were before you started to grieve.... Sign in to see full entry.
Friday, December 23, 2022
"There is greater clarity in the still waters of sadness, something not found in the babbling brooks of more sought after emotions." - Shaun Hick Feeling sad is your new normal. That emotion has permeated every part of your life for weeks such that you almost don't have to be reflective and consider... Sign in to see full entry.
Thursday, December 22, 2022
"We live and we die, but we are made of sterner stuff. The carbon atoms in our fingernails, the calcium in our bones, the iron atoms in our blood -- all the countless trillions of atoms of which we are made -- are ancient objects. They existed before us, before the Earth itself, in fact. And after... Sign in to see full entry.
Wednesday, December 21, 2022
"Sometimes when we are drowning in our own loss we lash out--anger is momentarily easier to cope with." - Anne Perry, No Graves as Yet You may find yourself being impatient or aggressive with close family members or friends. It's like putting on a suit of armor. In a strange way, being angry is... Sign in to see full entry.
Tuesday, December 20, 2022
"Like many people whose lives had formed around a particularly painful incident, she had grown used to providing ellipses around the event of her brother's death to keep conversations comfortable. At some point the subconscious logic of this had spread to the rest of her life so that she rarely... Sign in to see full entry.
Monday, December 19, 2022
"Precisely because a living being may die, it is necessary to care for that being so that it may live. Only under conditions in which the loss would matter does the value of the life appear. Thus, grievability is a presupposition for the life that matters." - Judith Butler, Frames of War: When Is... Sign in to see full entry.
Sunday, December 18, 2022
"I'm so sorry," he said because after Pamela died, he promised himself that if anyone told him the smallest, saddest story, he would answer, I'm so sorry. Meaning, Yes, that happened. You couldn't believe the people who believed that not mentioning sadness was a kind of magic that could stave off... Sign in to see full entry.
Saturday, December 17, 2022
"Somehow, grief had seemed easier to bear when the skies were dark and a cold wind kept cats and prey inside their nests." - Erin Hunter, Bramblestar's Storm Eventually, you will love sunny days again. Don't push yourself. Like so many other phases of grief, your return to the sunshine will come... Sign in to see full entry.
Friday, December 16, 2022
"There's always a last time. If you could remember every last time, you'd never stop grieving." - Jonathan Tropper, This is Where I Leave You You may be spending a lot of time feeling guilty trying to remember the last time you saw your loved one or told them how you felt. It's time to free yourself... Sign in to see full entry.