"For in grief nothing "stays put." One keeps on emerging from a phase, but it always recurs. Round and round. Everything repeats. Am I going in circles, or dare I hope I am on a spiral? But if a spiral, am I going up or down it? How often -- will it be for always? -- how often will the vast... Sign in to see full entry.
Friday, July 14, 2023
Thursday, July 13, 2023
"What I was afraid of was my own grief, the weight of it, the ineluctable corrosive force of it, and the stark awareness I had of being, for the first time in my life, entirely alone, a Crusoe shipwrecked and stranded in the limitless wastes of a boundless and indifferent ocean." - John Banville.... Sign in to see full entry.
Wednesday, July 12, 2023
"Grief is a curious thing, when it happens unexpectedly. It is a Band-Aid being ripped away, taking the top layer off a family. And the underbelly of a household is never pretty, ours no exception. There were times I stayed in my room for days on end with headphones on, if only so that I would not... Sign in to see full entry.
Tuesday, July 11, 2023
"What's even more messed up than funerals, is the way people treat you after the funeral. Like you're diseased or something." - Denise Jaden, Losing Faith. Initiate conversations with people you suspect feel a bit uncertain about what to say to you. Making them comfortable will help you feel better... Sign in to see full entry.
Monday, July 10, 2023
"When I saw your strand of hair I knew that grief is love turned into an eternal missing." - Rosamund Lupton, Sister Finding something that belonged to your loved one you forgot about is a bittersweet surprise. Eventually, those moments will make you smile more than they make you cry. Sign in to see full entry.
Sunday, July 9, 2023
"We all have our sorrows, and although the exact layers, weight, and dimensions of grief are different for everyone, the color of grief is common to us all. "I know," he said, "because he was human, and therefore, in a way, he did." - Diane Setterfield, The Thirteenth Tale. When you look at people... Sign in to see full entry.
Saturday, July 8, 2023
"Everyone was eating, talking softly, glancing at me, hugging me, eating. It was as if someone had turned the volume down. Everything looked normal, but the sound was muted. Death did this, set all this weirdness in motion, made people appear out of nowhere carrying casseroles, saying 'I'm sorry'... Sign in to see full entry.
Friday, July 7, 2023
"Emma dropped the paper. Her first impression was of a weak feeling in her stomach and in her knees; then of blind guilt, of unreality, of coldness, of fear; then she wished that it were already the next day. Immediately afterwards she realized that that wish was futile because the death of her... Sign in to see full entry.
Thursday, July 6, 2023
"The worst of it is over now, and I can't say that I am glad. Lose that sense of loss - you have gone and lost something else. But the body moves toward health. The mind, too, in steps. One step at a time. Ask a mother who has just lost a child, How many children do you have? "Four," she will say, "... Sign in to see full entry.
Wednesday, July 5, 2023
Grief was like a seizure that shook me like a storm." - Patricia Cornwell, The Body Farm Be sure to eat healthy foods. While you have heard this all your life, it is especially important when you are grieving. Your body needs healthy foods to help you maintain yourself and begin to feel good again. Sign in to see full entry.