Saturday, September 30, 2006
Siblings quarrel over inherited property. You're mediating.
You work out the mediation and an amicable settlement of division of property. Is your work over. Or does one have a responsibility to say come on, you're brothers and sisters and why don't you restore your relationships? What do you say? Shouldn't what we do in public life reflect what we'd like to...
Sign in to see full entry.
Friday, September 8, 2006
Opposing fascism in public life while being fascist control freaks at home?
This message is a reposting as no one read/commented on this one We accuse fascist forces of regimentation - yet we regiment like control freaks in our families. We want something to be placed exactly two centimetres away when it actually does not make any difference. It's all about hte virtues of...
Sign in to see full entry.
Sunday, July 9, 2006
If I am fagged out, I am fagged out. If I am in no mood to talk, I say so.
And the others in my household respect that. That's the straightforward culture of mutual respect. And if that's the way it's nice at home, that's the way it's nice in the larger world systems of governance as well. It should be possible for someone to say something upfront about what he or she...
Sign in to see full entry.
Tuesday, June 13, 2006
Exit in peace.
If you are the one who steps lightly in, it would be odd if you exit stomping your way out. Similarly if you drive your point home in any political situation with a certain calm, then maintain the same calm right through your discussion or argument, no matter what the provocation. This approach can...
Sign in to see full entry.
Wednesday, May 24, 2006
When I tend to thrust my views down the little one's throats at home,
saying I know best and no questions, the same children could well grow up disrespecting differences of opinion and diversity of thinking. What they pick up at a tender age in their homes reflects in their lives in the big wide world as they go out. Have you noticed this?
Sign in to see full entry.
Monday, April 10, 2006
"My fiancee is into hate speech" Something to think about?
Said my friend, " my fiancee is into hate speech about another community, but he's very good and gentle with me - very loving and caring" I don't like his hate speech and am in fact vehemently opposed to it, but as long as it doesn't medlle in our life, it's OK. "OK?" Another friend blurted, "OK?...
Sign in to see full entry.
Saturday, March 11, 2006
Whistle blowing!
Whistle blowing is something I associated with the physical education teacher at school and later the girl guide movement that I was a part of. it was also something I associated with the bus conductors. But today, in the adult world, whistle blowing is about so many other things - about exposing...
Sign in to see full entry.
Sunday, February 12, 2006
The personal is political. We see democracy in our families and we imbibe
it. We'd like to see the same system in the larger world. It makes us feel more at home when we are in the larger world if what we get in the larger world is what we have at home. Similarly the kind of democracy we have grown up with is the one we would invariably emulate, specially if it has meant...
Sign in to see full entry.
Saturday, January 28, 2006
When I live and work, I must know that I must live and let live. I cannot
live at another's cost. I must live in a way that I live life and do not disturb another's life. In the same manner, in the larger world, when we opt for development models, they have to be development models that are development for some at others' cost. Not a development model where a...
Sign in to see full entry.
Thursday, December 29, 2005
Don't be silly and spill the beans, we often hear our folks say at home
This is probably a way of sayng whatever happens at home keep it to yourself and hurt grows on hur grows on hurt and then it explodes. Instead, peck at the problem and deal and grapple with it. There are also power structures at play that determine what is silly and what isn't In fact we carry this...
Sign in to see full entry.
