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I am so sorry to hear what you all are going through. I continue to pray for you all.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on April 17, 2025 at 9:15 AM
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Good Morning
Kabu, I wish you the best. I hope you can get more help until Jim feels better.
posted by
Goldiec
on April 17, 2025 at 2:46 AM
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Yes, sadly folk forget. There is no blame. This is a different time. You made an honest deal.
I hope Jim realizes how it would have been if you had not contributed your savings to make the home more comfortable. Of course his illness is bound to affect his mind, When he recovers I am sure he will be more like his old self again. Try not to worry, beneath it all you have a soft heart . 🌺🌺
posted by
C_C_T
on April 17, 2025 at 1:54 AM
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I hear and understand.
I was the sole caretaker for my first wife, Judy.
Judy's downfall began in 2014 when she had a stroke at work at the hospital in Sebring, Florida. Two months later, they let her go without even saying "thanks for playing." They just called and told me they had decided they didn't need her.
Judy began what was initially a very slow slide into nowhere. There were a few months when she made some forward progress, but as time went on, everything began to go a little faster every month and then every week. And then, it got worse.
Her death was an answer to her prayers, and shamefully, there were a few days I prayed for the same outcome. I was pushed over the edge, but a few months later, God brought me Lisa. As some of you may recall, she was a wild cat when I first met her, but once she saw I was for real and I wasn't going to abuse her like everyone else had, she began to calm down... and now? Six years later, there is no trace of that wildcat.
God bless ya all!!!!!
V
posted by
BigV
on April 16, 2025 at 2:08 PM
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No doubt all caregivers deal with stress and depression stemming from the ungrateful response of those they take care of. We are lucky, we two, that we can give the help, and aren't the ones who need it. Maybe you can take a minute around sunset this evening, step outside and listen to the songbirds - unless it's pouring down rain. In that case, a nice cup of tea and a sweet biscuit might just be good for you. Self-care is a good thing.
posted by
Pat_B
on April 16, 2025 at 12:07 PM
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