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Re: Re: Ciel
My stepmom also had a rough childhood when it came to loving parents. She also struggled to be a 'good' mom, she was so filled with anger and resentment. I know that love is there, I know sort of what it should feel like, but children who are unloved learn to protect themselves. Later on they struggle to find safe connections, often make questionable choices and so perpetuate the belief in their own unloveableness. And get accused of being too self-involved, because they are always in that emotional pain of feeling outside everything, excluded, unworthy... It takes a lifetime and loving friends, real connections, to learn love.
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Ciel
on February 18, 2022 at 7:54 AM
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Re: Annicita
Thank you
posted by
C_C_T
on February 17, 2022 at 12:39 AM
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Annicita
on February 16, 2022 at 8:39 PM
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Re: We have a unique ability as children to see things as they are
Yes Pat I remember when very young I was told to do something by a kind of carer.
I said No! and she simply expressed an awful rage. I remember thinking why is she
angry No is not much different to Yes.
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C_C_T
on February 16, 2022 at 10:54 AM
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Re: Ciel
I suppose good loving parents try to protect their children whatever the situation.
Some, may not have had the former experience. My mother told me once that she would have liked to show us more love, but she had not received any as a child and it was difficult for her.
posted by
C_C_T
on February 16, 2022 at 10:49 AM
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Re: Taps
Somehow Taps tea tasted better in those days perhaps it was the water from the well that clinched it.
posted by
C_C_T
on February 16, 2022 at 10:44 AM
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Re: FS
I wonder FS. I suppose you don't want me to look into the future?
posted by
C_C_T
on February 16, 2022 at 10:43 AM
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Re: Good Afternoon Sassy
He did have pneumonia three times Sassy. Of course, there were not adequate tablets. Later on there were pills for this. 
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C_C_T
on February 16, 2022 at 10:41 AM
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Good afternoon
The cold air plays hell on a body that is riddled with pneumonia. Dad was one tough cookie.
posted by
Sherri_G
on February 15, 2022 at 9:17 AM
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It's amazing how much we learn as we get older. I wonder what the current me would say to the old me.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on February 15, 2022 at 6:33 AM
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A boy sharing the ritual of tea drinking sounds great to me. Loved reading it.
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TAPS.
on February 14, 2022 at 3:57 PM
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Kids don't know their power or their choices, they don't yet have the information or the insight they will acquire from the experiencing of life--So they don't know the why or how of what they are living, they just live it.
I think it's true of every age, really: ignorance and the sense of power. Even as adults, we're still faking it for the kids, guessing and hoping for survival.
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Ciel
on February 14, 2022 at 1:05 PM
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We have a unique ability as children to see things as they are
until or unless some adult explains why we've got it wrong - thinking to protect our tender spirits from uncomfortable truth. Decades later what we saw and knew then is still with us - indelible memory. Some, like you, can describe it so vividly the rest of us can see it, too.
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Pat_B
on February 14, 2022 at 11:13 AM
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