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Dearest Kabu
You are owed an apology. To put it bluntly, I feel like such an ass for saying what I said to you. I'm not going to repeat those words. Whenever I see an apology where the offending words are repeated, I cringe, for I feel that unintentional or not, the repeating of said words comes across as getting in another dig.
I never should have taken your words personally. I don't want you to conflate that as sudden agreement with your words. The best thing to do (and something we need more in these politically sensitive times) is to either agree to disagree, ignore or seek out the poster of a comment that ruffles me in a civil dialogue.
Having read you for about a decade or so, there were bound to times I did not take well to a comment. Rather than talking about it with you, I bottled it up, and things exploded. I'm not using that as an excuse. There is no excuse for what I said. What I have learned from this is that I need to handle things better the next time I see a comment that does not strike me positively.
I regret what I said about Wiley and regret that I am not able to directly apologize to the man himself.
With Wiley, I let the Rotten Disease he is suffering from cloud my judgment of him. Wiley made some comments and blog posts while under the early duress of the Rotten Disease that I took offense to. Rather than showing compassion, and understanding the situation, I held onto a lot of bad feelings from those comments. That was wrong of me to do. I hope he one day finds peace. I know he's suffered a lot over the years.
I do hope we can remain friends and that you will continue to allow me to read your entries at least. I did block you but removed the block for you and adnohr, so you can comment if you like on my entries.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on April 18, 2020 at 6:56 AM
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posted by
Sherri_G
on April 18, 2020 at 12:44 AM
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What a beautiful and memorable story.
Your dad is a lucky man to not only have a beautiful wife, but one who could cook and bake like a chef as well is a bonus. Your childhood must have been a lot of fun.
posted by
Sherri_G
on April 18, 2020 at 12:44 AM
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My mother was a beautiful and fun-loving mother until she'd grab her elm switch and start swinging it. That's what happens when you have seven children and the dad is gone so much working two jobs to feed them. I dearly loved them both.
posted by
TAPS.
on April 17, 2020 at 6:11 PM
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Your mother sounds like she was an exquisite lady who was very beautiful, as is her daughter. What a beautiful memory you have shared with us. Thank you, dear. How lucky to have had a mom like you did. I also had a wonderfully lovely mom.
posted by
Sea_Gypsy
on April 17, 2020 at 4:24 PM
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Re: I think now that my mother was beautiful, especially in the years
Actually dear Pat I think I understand how difficult it all was for your Mother. The last weeks of looking after Wiley, the last person I ever wanted to be short tempered with was Wiley...it is the day to day grind that wears a person down and so the very ones that you are working for and that you love, are the ones that can find themselves feeling alienated from us.
posted by
Kabu
on April 17, 2020 at 3:58 PM
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goodbye mate, have a wonderful life. I wish you well always.
posted by
Kabu
on April 17, 2020 at 3:55 PM
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Funny enough Corbin No I don't. Wiley was there for me when I finally left an abusive marriage and he helped me to lift myself from depression and self loathing back to the person that I am. The nursing career had reached the time when I felt that I should retire and the grandchildren was the most that I missed. They are grown up now.
I truly love Wiley and I love Canada. ...and am pretty keen on your country as well.
posted by
Kabu
on April 17, 2020 at 3:49 PM
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I think now that my mother was beautiful, especially in the years
before I knew her. By the time I was old enough to have opinions she had been through hell and back, was fighting for survival of herself and the three of us, and poverty does erase the smile lines and bring on creases and wrinkles. So nice to have such a special memory of your mum - and your dad's appreciation of her.
posted by
Pat_B
on April 17, 2020 at 11:44 AM
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Wiley used to say, "Forget about the past," and tell us all about his years of drinking and sobriety.
http://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/FormerStudentIntern/941475
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on April 17, 2020 at 11:28 AM
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Do you regret leaving Australia?
posted by
Corbin_Dallas
on April 17, 2020 at 11:24 AM
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