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My condolences, and I'm so sorry for your loss. It must be terrible difficult. 
posted by
Sea_Gypsy
on April 17, 2020 at 4:21 PM
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Thank you all. Judy was that shy girl who stood back, allowing girls who were more flagrant about 'man hunting' to push themselves forward. After we met, it took a long time to bring her inner beauty out where everyone could see it, but I saw it right away.
After Judy gained her confidence in herself, she became 'that nurse' who doctors always wanted when the crap was waist deep and rising in a bad delivery. She knew her job, and it showed. I can't tell you how many times she was called in to take over and then take command of a bad situation. She was fearless until the last few months of her career.
When she got home, she became what I called 'Home Judy.' She was a wonderful mother to our two children. She was always loving and caring with them and me.
'Work Judy' was all business. She had compassion, but there were times when compassion had to take backseat to medical expediency. When the stuff was hitting the fan, Judy stood tall. NOBODY messed with 'Work Judy.'
She always had a smile for the world. She always had a smile and a kiss for me and the kids. We lived our lives by the rules we made on our 'honeymoon.' It was amazing how much wisdom we put together in those 15 days together. We decided how we would greet each other on a daily basis, how we would raise our kids, how we would treat one another in all the various scenarios that might come along. Some might call 'BS' to that, but kind of like the Declaration of Independence and the Bill of Rights, we got 'lucky' and forged out a path that we always followed. We always treated each other with great respect. We had set out how we would address our grievances without yelling and screaming. We were deeply in love and kept to our promises to one another.
I had one lady tell me that she would have been embarrassed to have some of the details I laid out in that story, but I assured her that Judy had read and approved all of it was I was writing it. She was still having moments of clarity, and she loved to read. There was only one thing that she had asked me to either remove or clarify. I read it over, saw her point, and changed it to her satisfaction. If I had changed or lied about anything that happened in that story, it wouldn't have become the tribute to her that I wanted it to be.
One more thing about that story. Somewhere in it, I tell the reader that much of that story centered around me and what was happening to ME. Why? Because what happened to me, great affected her. Much of what happened to her was due to things that happened to me. When I was shot at the bar fight, she nearly lost herself, but stood tall with our children while I recovered. The night I watched a guy shoot and murder his wife, and then point the gun at me before committing suicide, spraying me with 'body matter,' affected her deeply, but again, she held the family together. It would have sunk many others.
When Judy wasn't at work, she was quite a homebody. When she came to volunteer with us on the ambulance, she was a trusted and valued colleague. She had earned the trust of every crew member we had at our base, and every one of them told me that she was good at the job as anyone else in the entire county EMS system.
Long story short? I was so blessed to have spent most of my life with her. She showed many of the sweet things in Life, and when things went bad, I could count on her to stand strong. As Neil Diamond sang, Judy was truly, 'The Story of My Life.'
posted by
BigV
on April 17, 2020 at 2:46 PM
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Oh, I like her. You were so lucky to have her in your life.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope her memory is a blessing to you. Be well.
posted by
Pat_B
on April 17, 2020 at 10:45 AM
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She does appear happy and this is a wonderful picture as she looks back at you with love. The eyes say it all and you captured her happy loving look.
posted by
Kabu
on April 17, 2020 at 9:56 AM
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Thank you all.
V
posted by
BigV
on April 17, 2020 at 9:50 AM
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She does look happy, and that is a nice image to keep forever in you heart.
You capture the human image well, my friend. Nice shot. 
posted by
Sherri_G
on April 17, 2020 at 9:02 AM
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Keep looking at it as a positive image of the one you loved...
posted by
Corbin_Dallas
on April 17, 2020 at 7:18 AM
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