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Well, your baby's dead
This was how the news was delivered to a poor husband, who was blind by the way, one night when I worked in Labor and Delivery. The couple had arrived so happy and nervous. I took the husband to the waiting room while the other nurse got the mom into bed for me. Putting the fetal monitor on showed nice regular contractions but we could not hear any heart beat. Time for old school techniques, the fetascope. Nothing but silence. We called the Dr. and he came in and did an ultrasound to confirm no heart beat. I went and got dad and just as I brought him in the door way, the Dr. looked at him and said: "Well, your baby's dead." The man nearly passed out on me right there as he hears this information and the uncontrollable sobs of his wife at the same time. If I hadn't been physicall supporting the dad I would have choked that dr. eyeballs out of his head.
posted by
skye08
on October 22, 2015 at 12:26 AM
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Glad Wiley is feeling better. I do want him to be calm and happy it is a healthy script. Tell him to concentrate on his love for you, not how he hears the doctor talking.
posted by
Justi
on October 20, 2015 at 7:55 AM
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Kabu
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posted by
BC-A
on October 19, 2015 at 1:15 PM
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Sadly some believe in their own power . Silly old fool even suggesting something that might worry a patient. The idea is to help people get better, not worry them over something that is not likely to happen.
posted by
C_C_T
on October 19, 2015 at 10:13 AM
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Kabu
I have always (well, mostly) preferred the nurses to the docs...
posted by
Nautikos
on October 19, 2015 at 9:44 AM
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Wonderful that you were there, Dear Kabu...
In my nursing school days, I saw docs like that and yes, those old steel bedpans would have fit nicely up against a head or two, lol; unreal how cold some of them can be - doctors and bedpans..:) 
Glad WileyFriend is better! 
posted by
Katray2
on October 19, 2015 at 8:49 AM
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I think doctors and yes even some nurses need to be put through the system so that they understand what the patient goes through...there was a movie with John Hurt about it...very good movie to check out if you haven't seen it.
posted by
Annicita
on October 19, 2015 at 8:23 AM
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I got to Nurse Practitioners when I can.
Over the years I have found them more competent all around than doctors who say stupid things like, "I don't believe in that" about things that they've never studied or even looked into.
posted by
Ciel
on October 19, 2015 at 7:16 AM
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I have known of a few doctors who have been cruel in such a way. Thankfully, you were there for their patients to comfort them.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on October 19, 2015 at 6:30 AM
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It's a blessing to find a doc who sees the person and not just the
symptoms. But nurses are the rocks we cling to when push comes to shove, their little jokes and understanding words. Their talents and heart keep our courage up, help us heal, and often make us forget our urge to whine. Those little tin gods can't do it by themselves.
posted by
Pat_B
on October 19, 2015 at 4:15 AM
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Yes, there are doctors like that everywhere, but there are a few kind ones also.
I think that most doctors are so overworked that sometimes they don't think straight. You wonder if they realize one day they will be on the oposite side of the fence.
posted by
TAPS.
on October 18, 2015 at 9:10 PM
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Kabu
There was a really good movie, "The Doctor" that highlighted this issue. A surgeon who acted like he was a god developed throat cancer and became a patient. It's a really good movie, starred William Hurt...can't remember who else....anyway, he get's a real education in empathy and "Physician heal thyself."
posted by
Krisles
on October 18, 2015 at 5:21 PM
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Many of them need more than a few hours of lessons on compassion.
posted by
adnohr
on October 18, 2015 at 1:28 PM
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