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Yeah I dont like the fact he is alone but unfortunatley he has brought it on himself

posted by Lanetay on February 25, 2015 at 5:31 AM | link to this | reply

I understand your confusion and flood of mixed feelings.  Recently I spent some time with my x as he is in hospice.  He had not been so terrible to me so we actually had a delightful time.  I hate the thought of him being alone.  Talked with him yesterday and he was a bit confused but was concerned about me.

posted by Inside_The_Purple_Purse on February 25, 2015 at 2:40 AM | link to this | reply

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yes he will always have a place in my heart

posted by Lanetay on February 24, 2015 at 3:16 PM | link to this | reply

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how dads turn on their kids is beyound me

posted by Lanetay on February 24, 2015 at 3:15 PM | link to this | reply

My mom is that way.  My dad left her for another and pretty much divorced us as well.  I don't think I have heard from him in over 5 years.

Sorry to hear that his health is suffering....

posted by Annicita on February 24, 2015 at 2:08 PM | link to this | reply

Perfectly understandable. My younger sister is going ( and will be going ) through something similar. She is recently divorced ( after thirty years of marriage ) with four kids ( and a grandchild on the way ). We don't know how reactions will be once the baby is born, and, my sister is already getting remarried. But when it comes to health issues, I guess that's a whole other ballgame. Like you said, regardless of any possible resentment, you still don't want your ex to suffer. That's a tough situation . . .

posted by JimmyA on February 24, 2015 at 12:10 PM | link to this | reply

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hes in the state of WA so no I cant see him but I wish my kids could be there for him

posted by Lanetay on February 24, 2015 at 7:38 AM | link to this | reply

I am so sorry. See if it is alright for you to go see him if you would like to do so. I shall pray for you. 

posted by Justi on February 23, 2015 at 11:08 PM | link to this | reply

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yes I have never stopped the love

posted by Lanetay on February 23, 2015 at 10:25 PM | link to this | reply

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you are so kind thank you

posted by Lanetay on February 23, 2015 at 10:24 PM | link to this | reply

Re: lustor

yes you two are probably right

posted by Lanetay on February 23, 2015 at 10:24 PM | link to this | reply

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I thought after all these years and the bittereness I felt would of went away but still I did love him for along time

posted by Lanetay on February 23, 2015 at 10:23 PM | link to this | reply

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I dont think any of us could afford to go to him but I agree I think at least one of the kids should be there.

posted by Lanetay on February 23, 2015 at 10:22 PM | link to this | reply

praying

Hi long time no hear ..On my art..lol...Anyway yes that first love is something else..You have a right to feel some type of way...I hope you can here something..You never know it might do your heart so good if you reach out to be by his side if he doen't have anyone..Much love

posted by Charnell_Lanay on February 23, 2015 at 8:34 PM | link to this | reply

Having children together creates a bond that never really breaks. I used to have an affection for my first husband because of our boys; then he sexually harassed our DIL...the lovely one, and I cannot forget what he did.

posted by Kabu on February 23, 2015 at 12:29 PM | link to this | reply

lustor

well i guess i know how you feel.  i dont think one stops loving, they just do it differently, a different place in the heart that cct spoke about.

posted by jeansaw on February 23, 2015 at 11:29 AM | link to this | reply

That makes that you still love him in a way because of the history you two had together...I am wishig him all the best.

posted by FormerStudentIntern on February 23, 2015 at 11:25 AM | link to this | reply

Well of course LL. You had to feel like that because once you loved him and that is shielded in your memory. One has to harden oneself to some emotions or they would destroy one.I think you can now feel pity for him,I am sure you will feel happier doing so. 

posted by C_C_T on February 23, 2015 at 11:10 AM | link to this | reply