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Thanks FSI for your good wishes. x
posted by
mneme
on April 11, 2014 at 3:22 AM
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Hello Taps.. thank you for your kind words. I will be okay... choir practice last night with marvellous descants. xx
posted by
mneme
on April 11, 2014 at 2:29 AM
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Re: Everyone is so driven by concretized beliefs
Hi Ciel - you and I think alike... why can't people be more tolerant and look at the bigger picture.. I couldn't do it to my mother and I don't know why she does it to me.
posted by
mneme
on April 11, 2014 at 2:25 AM
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Hi Jimmy... you won't want to hear about the latest flare-up...lol. I feel for her, but I feel fro me, too. I've noticed over the week, by the way, that his emails have become more and more brief. I don't know what to think, so I will just be patient, and get back out in my garden - once the plumber has finished upstairs..!
posted by
mneme
on April 11, 2014 at 2:23 AM
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Hello Annicita... it would be nice if I could phone him (though I think he should phone me...), but that would mean I'd have to ring his son's mobile. Which means he would be there too.
I guess he has similar feelings that if he rang me he would be uncomfortable for the same reasons..
My son, who knows me pretty well, told me a long time ago that I never fought with anyone except my daughter and her father (and it's true).. she is so highly strung that you never know what you are going to get.. so he felt we should not see each other for a while - his sister, not my partner.
posted by
mneme
on April 11, 2014 at 2:20 AM
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Wow! your son really said that to you? are you sure you want to be with someone who limits the contact you can have with him by email only? why not phone...sorry but that makes me suspicious especially after all I have been...maybe your children see a side you don't see...take a deep breath...center yourself and meditate on this...it helps me a lot
I wish you all the best however this turns out...big hug
posted by
Annicita
on April 11, 2014 at 12:27 AM
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I believe I understand the dilemma you've been facing even since you were last here. Change always seems to be difficult for many people, and accepting a new 'family member' is probably no different. It's a shame that your daughter just doesn't seem able to see your side of this. And yes, I too would find it extremely impersonal to send an e-mail to my spouse if we were separated for any length of time. Phone calls are always much, much better! Hopefully this 'meeting' between everyone will take place soon, and will go well. Stay strong . . . 
posted by
JimmyA
on April 10, 2014 at 1:59 PM
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Everyone is so driven by concretized beliefs
of how other people should be, should act... No one seems to let anyone else just be who they are, live the lives they've chosen, and go along for the ride, as one enjoys a wild gallop or steady canter or a quiet walk. Everyone seems to have such unrealistic expectations that others are bound to fail, and disappoint.
posted by
Ciel
on April 10, 2014 at 7:57 AM
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I read this right after I realized you were here, but I didn't answer immediately for it made me worry about you and I had to stew on it for awhile. It sounds like you have been and are going through a difficult time, but I'm sure you will come out on top as you work your way through it all. {{{HUGS}}}
posted by
TAPS.
on April 9, 2014 at 7:49 PM
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I am glad to see you posting on Blogit. I continue to wish you the best.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on April 9, 2014 at 6:46 PM
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Kabu, you are a sweetie... the good news this month, however, is that my lovely sister has come through her cancer treatment really well and is - fingers crossed - 'all clear.' I took the kids to visit her and the family yesterday, first time I've seen her since my little operation in January. Up one day, down the next.. smile. xx
posted by
mneme
on April 9, 2014 at 3:55 PM
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your son is right. And I always have a reserve about the man you Almost live with...after 4 years??? Sometimes he treats you like a queen and then he goes right off.
what I know about divorce and children from experience myself and others is that at some time children will always make you suffer. if this is happening for a long time as in your case it is abuse and you don't need to accept it. Actually everyone except for your son and step son are being abusive to you. i just want to hug you.
posted by
Kabu
on April 9, 2014 at 3:02 PM
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