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I am with Sinome on this one.. does it have to be worng to live as families? I think if everyone is contributing, as they should, then why is there a problem? Anyways.. just a thought..
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posted by
Blue_feathers
on September 3, 2013 at 12:54 PM
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Justi
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posted by
BC-A
on August 26, 2013 at 2:01 PM
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I am glad to read this because now I know its not just my kids, but coming from CA its hard to find a place for under 1k a month and if you dont have someone or dont want to share then its ok to live with a parent, especially if it helps the parent out. I spoke with a woman in her late 70's the other day and she only make $600 for social security I wondered then how does she survive. I am lucky now that I can afford to live by myself and my kids are doing it for the first time in our lives.
posted by
Lanetay
on August 26, 2013 at 9:22 AM
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Well it is becoming increasingly difficult for parents to contribute towards even one of their child's mortgage, many have done so in the past, but low interest rates have depleted any extra cash that would have been available. I think most kids would love to have their own property, but are not prepared to struggle and scheme as their grandparents and parents did. Let's face it a house used to be just that. Now it has three toilets and many accessories. A very emotive subject Justi. 
posted by
C_C_T
on August 26, 2013 at 8:40 AM
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My kids all left, came back, left again,and yes, mostly it was because of financial difficulties, but we also supported each other during seperations, job-loss, etc. My mom did the same, as did other members of my family. I think maybe we were not the standard, but I am certainly all for generations living together as long as it's for the right reasons. Great post, Justi!!
posted by
adnohr
on August 25, 2013 at 6:34 PM
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Some very telling statistics you have there.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on August 25, 2013 at 4:24 PM
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Justi
Well, I wish I could agree with Sinome, but I can't. What we are seeing now is not a return to the past, the re-discovery of the togetherness of the extended family (always more a rural than an urban phenomenon anyway), even though in some cases that may be a by-product. It's something that has specific, but very complex causes, structural, economic and political, and that are forcing this trend...And to even begin discussing these issues meaningfully goes way beyond the scope of this forum...
posted by
Nautikos
on August 25, 2013 at 1:46 PM
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Sinome
I want to thank you for that look at this situation. I never lived in it but wanted to do so. i was an only child and was lonely a lot. I would have loved living that way. My children lived at home perhaps longer than most. My middle one was in his 20s and my daughter also after they were working. I had no problem with it. Why not this is home until you get married and settle in your home. But I think children mostly feel they are a failure and the parents feel they can't afford them. Personally I would rather give them money when they need it than to leave it after they don't. On the other side if one is doping and living at home not working or getting and education they could leave and make it on their own or clean up.
You are so welcome to our prayers. 
posted by
Justi
on August 25, 2013 at 1:29 PM
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See I look at that trend in a different way. It is not strange to me that young adults should live with their parents... In Europe and South America multi generation family units are not only common but actually the norm... In the past children grew up in a house full of aunts and grand parents, cousins and great aunts and uncles... and everyone was happy and respectful and lived together in harmony until there was a marriage and even then , sometimes the new married couple joined the clan loll With the sexual revolution and the "living together " fad... and also the modern way of living, these communal family units declined in numbers until we could only find them in rural areas or in economically challenged parts where sharing a roof was more a necessity than a choice... but in my view, wether its true that young adults were more independent and parents and grandparents had more "freedom" to pursue and enjoy their "retirement" years back then... something was lost in the change... families were never the same. It has been so long since that change took place here in the States that we have gotten used to that "cripple" family we all grew up in. We never knew or we have forgotten how it was long before... the respect... the love... the wisdom shared. Now again it is the economic pressures that are forcing the resurgence of those multi-generational units... and I say ITs a good thing. A good thing that grandparents, parents, children and grandchildren share their life and yes, why not, their finances... Call me crazy but I think its the one good trend I see around me and I do not see it as a failure but as a gift.
Love you as always darling and want to thank you for your prayers... All the best xoxoxo
posted by
Sinome
on August 25, 2013 at 12:59 PM
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I don't know..
posted by
Saif_AlKindi
on August 25, 2013 at 12:16 PM
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I think it is the poor parents who become the servants....LOL... actually love, it is a trend not just in America, it is here, and in the UK, and Europe, and of course Australia. I think that not wanting to marry and Stydent loans and more and more need to go to college to have any chance of a job....but darling, I really don't know. 
posted by
Kabu
on August 25, 2013 at 12:10 PM
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