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The fact that you need to ask speaks volumes. First of all this is your decision. You shouldn't need anybody's opinion. You also have to remember you are setting the example for your daughter. Is this something you would want your daughter to think is ok to do? You have to live with her not us. You also have to take your daughter's feelings into consideration. She is still coping with her mother's death. Take your time and don't rush into anything.
posted by
Annicita
on April 9, 2013 at 7:34 PM
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The real question is what is going to make you happy?
Considering how things are, I'm not sure that just living with a woman would be a good idea.. or even set a good example for your daughter.
It would be different .. maybe better if you like that one to spend time with her but not live with her.
The other.. well how do YOU feel about her? This is not like buying a shirt.. it's something that you will have to live with.. possibly for the rest of your life. My opinion is that it could be a good option.. if it is good for you. There would be another child.. maybe it's not the most ideal situation.. but your daughter would then at least have someone she could relate to that is not too far apart in age.
Have you tried inviting this woman over with her child?
I know you are weary from doing everything alone.. believe me I really do understand that. However.. it will not make life much easier for you unless you really want it.. you need to think about that. Make sure you don't end up with the wrong type of person, just to ease your situation. 
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on April 6, 2013 at 3:08 AM
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put your daughter first for a little while and stay single. She needs you
so much at present. There is always time for another relationship but to lose one's daughter because they were pushed into something that she isn't ready for...that is a tragedy. I would love to have a daughter.
posted by
Kabu
on April 3, 2013 at 2:31 PM
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What Shelly wrote makes a lot of sense to me.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on April 3, 2013 at 9:29 AM
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it is your decision
i read something not to long ago that went like this, to listen you have to quiet your mind.
posted by
jeansaw
on April 3, 2013 at 8:31 AM
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Your daughter has been though a lot, too! She might be confused as well! Children really don't want to share their parents in the beginning! There may be some jealousy but I think all of it is normal. Your daughter is going to be an adult soon enough and you need to think in the long term of what is in your best interest. If either woman is a good woman and will accept and nurture your daughter and develop a wholesome relationship with her it could have life long dividens. You must also remember that the one you would chose must be a good match for yourself and vice versa! You have a life to live and so live it to the fullest! Children get over things eventually! Right now you have a young daughter who does not have enough experience to understand all that is going on around her! Just make decisions based on happiness and what's good for you and your daughter now and in the future! It's not an easy one but one that should have consideration for the heart but truly needs to be made with the mind as well! I wish you all the best on this very important decision! sam
posted by
sam444
on April 2, 2013 at 7:39 PM
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