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Sexual harassment. I had an uncle who like to talk with his hands that seemed to land on my thigh. I learned to wait until he was seated to find a seat where he would keep his hands to himself. I should not have endured that. People would say, oh that is just his way. I was not mine!!! He got arrested for threatening his wife, was Baker Act and now is restrained.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on July 19, 2013 at 4:57 PM
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Depends on the people and the situation.
posted by
julynn
on May 14, 2013 at 2:55 AM
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I would have to know both people to make any kind of call on it.
posted by
adnohr
on March 17, 2013 at 7:35 PM
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It would depend on so many things,
how the person is related, your relationship to the man, the man's personality, his habits, did he do it to you or does he do it to everyone, where was the pat placed, why did he pat you, what were you talking about? a million things you have to consider, then you have to ask yourself, do i say anything or not, and if i do does it make any difference to me how it makes him feel. will i feel safe around this person if i do not say anything, or do i even want to be around this person again and if not maybe its not important to say anything, only the person being patted can answer any of these questions. i do think if you did not like that is when you should have said something!
posted by
jeansaw
on March 15, 2013 at 5:19 PM
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Would it depend on where the "pat" was placed? If on the top of the head, it might be construed as a little condescending, but relatively innocent. But if on the butt, well, now we have a whole other issue, although my father never patted me on the butt! A few whacks with a belt maybe, but never a simple pat . . . 
posted by
JimmyA
on March 15, 2013 at 5:44 AM
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Well Ms SF. and where have you been? The answer to your question. First if you mean to do it and you should not, ask the lady if she wants a fatherly pat if she say no or kicks your shins leave her in peace.
posted by
C_C_T
on March 15, 2013 at 1:40 AM
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Straightforward
{A dirty old man love. BC-A, Bill’s R®st
posted by
BC-A
on March 14, 2013 at 11:32 PM
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I think one should keep their hands to themselves! sam
posted by
sam444
on March 14, 2013 at 7:54 PM
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Straightforward
I'd assume it wasn't a fatherly pat at all luv.........
posted by
WileyJohn
on March 14, 2013 at 7:38 PM
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women know....I would side with her and as I have done in the past
tell him not to do the patting for it is not welcome.
posted by
Kabu
on March 14, 2013 at 5:04 PM
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I would be inclined to side with the woman though I guess with cultures, certain people may not take things into account.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on March 14, 2013 at 11:47 AM
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