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Re: Re: You and your kids have all been through a long-term hell, sounds like.
CPTSD is a slightly different critter from PTSD, and there are some very specific differences. It has only been recognized for a few years, and is still struggling for 'official' recognition, but those of us who live it, know it's for real.
A primary feature is emotional flashbacks, rather than the physical-threat flashbacks that figure in PTSD. A small thing no one else notices or takes seriously can trigger a sudden despair, fear, apathy... any number of emotional reactions that are actually appropriate reactions to past events, but simply appear to others as an over-the-top reaction to a minor present event.
posted by
Ciel
on February 24, 2013 at 9:51 AM
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" In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on." ~Robert Frost
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TAPS.
on February 21, 2013 at 5:51 PM
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mneme
We can never entirely get rid of all our baggage, can we? 
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Nautikos
on February 21, 2013 at 12:45 PM
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Hi Sam... did it come out that way? I didn't mean for it to.. he's very kind and caring, I just have an issue with his perception of my kids (whom he's never met.. he just sees the effect on me). I feel that I know them best, but I do have problems with awareness, and am not in the least 'street-wise,' so I wouldn't look for anything beyond what I think I know... if that makes any sense.
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mneme
on February 21, 2013 at 7:02 AM
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Re: boy what a difficult situation
Hi jollyjeff - glad to have been of service..! smile.. thanks for reading. I think it's all okay again, for the moment...
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mneme
on February 21, 2013 at 6:58 AM
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Jimmy, thanks for taking the trouble to comment. I'm not moving again, and that's definite! I was having a bad evening, and it worried me that they seem to be more frequent recently... we have both been under a bit of stress with elderly relatives (yes, even older than us!....smile..).
I've never put myself ahead of everyone else, so it's probably a bit late to start now but I could try to be more brave and to say what I'd like to happen. Problem with that is other people and their reactions, at least it's a problem for me after what I've been through.
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mneme
on February 21, 2013 at 6:57 AM
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Re: You and your kids have all been through a long-term hell, sounds like.
Thank you Ciel, I hadn't thought of that... and you might be right. I read all the articles around PTSD some years ago but I thought I was over all that. Just goes to show doesn't it? Thanks again..
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mneme
on February 21, 2013 at 6:52 AM
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You and your kids have all been through a long-term hell, sounds like.
Have you considered the probability that you are all dealing with a form of post traumatic stress disorder? Labels aren't the problem, unless they are the wrong labels, and get in the way of effective response to what goes haywire. Understanding what's really wrong, lets us fix it: the correct label becomes the 'handle' on the 'basket' of miseries, and starts us being able to manage it.
I highly recommend reading some of the articles here
http://www.pete-walker.com/fAQsComplexPTSD.html
on Complex PTSD.
posted by
Ciel
on February 20, 2013 at 4:35 AM
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If you were in your 20's, or even your 30's, the situation may be more easily resolved. But at this point in your life, I would have to say that your happiness, and that of your son's ( and possibly daughter's ) would have to come first! I've only moved 3 times in my life ( I'm 52 ) but each move was just from town to town in the same state. I can't even fathom having to consider moving from country to country! Regardless, I still say that your life should take precedence over anyone else's, including a recent relationship! Just my opinion . . . 
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JimmyA
on February 18, 2013 at 8:14 AM
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boy what a difficult situation
makes me appreciate my life
posted by
jollyjeff
on February 17, 2013 at 6:28 PM
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It seems that it is always easier to deflect than to own up to thier own shortcomings! sam
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sam444
on February 17, 2013 at 5:45 PM
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