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Maybe. But I think it's the quality and not the quantity of time one spends with a child. My mama was only there on occasion, when she would come to visit us in our foster homes. But, my oh my, how we looked forward to those moments! The light and love she distributed during her visits would last until the next time she would come.
posted by
adnohr
on February 3, 2013 at 6:07 AM
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Justi
þThat’s the culture of today love. BC-A, Bill’s R®st
posted by
BC-A
on February 2, 2013 at 9:15 PM
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Re: Re: for this gal your pal here, it was all about choices was the feminist
we have so much from life that was the same although how I could have endured the l;osses you have been asked to cope with...well i admire you forever.xx
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Kabu
on February 2, 2013 at 5:40 PM
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Well I think that here the politicians are a lot to blame Justi. A young girl applied for a flat and the council informed her that the flats were reserved for girls expecting a child.
Now this should never have happened,any dimwit would know that girls who were unhappy in their family life and probably at odds with Mum would listen to their friends and think great why get up and go too work , get in the family way and be given a flat or house even. I know families where all the girls have adopted this ploy. If at the start they had been given a place in a communal building with other girls, I don't think there would have been so many eager to participate. Now what happens when the child reaches maturity.
posted by
C_C_T
on February 2, 2013 at 7:45 AM
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This is probably a huge can of worms you're opening here, but here's my take . . . I always felt that feminism and equality was actually about opportunity. For many years, women were denied many things; voting, owning property, attending certain schools, pursuing certain careers, obtaining patents, etc. Now those restrictions and denials are a thing of the past. However, I also feel that the pendulum has swung too far in the opposite direction, and the "advances" women have made in our society have come at the cost of the family. Women are by far better nurturers and care-takers, and the bond between mother & child is supposed to be one of the strongest in the universe. But I think that bond has been sacrificed in this pursuit of so-called equality. Am I saying that women are only good for two things . . . the kitchen and the bedroom? Certainly not! Women have done some amazing things over the years. But there's nothing more amazing, at least to me, than how women raise and care for their young. I'm so glad I grew up in the '60's, and that my mom was home with me to take care of me when I needed her most! I think these are the skills women should be pursuing . . . not the ability to drive a tractor trailer or to run for a political office! Just my opinion . . . 
posted by
JimmyA
on February 2, 2013 at 7:23 AM
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What we need to do is to turn back to our Father in Heaven and realize what and where true love is.
posted by
UtahJay
on February 2, 2013 at 2:32 AM
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Sadly I see this too, up close and personal. In my group is a Doctor, and a Lawyer and a ex NFL star player 2 street people a mother and me. Our society is breaking down in all quarters and our government seems to be cheering it on. Of course they rely on this sort of thing for their voting base. This sort of thing happens again and again in the Bible, and again and again God has an answer for such ungodliness.
posted by
UtahJay
on February 2, 2013 at 2:28 AM
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FormerStudentIntern
That is for sure. It takes some of us longer than others. 
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Justi
on February 1, 2013 at 8:29 PM
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We learn a lot from our life experiences.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on February 1, 2013 at 8:02 PM
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Sam444
Us women who should be the nurturers just dry up when there is so much on our plates. We can't do that much and do it well. It takes a toll on us or our children or both.
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Justi
on February 1, 2013 at 7:33 PM
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Re: Justi
I am always happy to come to your blog.
posted by
Justi
on February 1, 2013 at 7:31 PM
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Re: for this gal your pal here, it was all about choices was the feminist
Kabu it seems you and I are saying the same thing. There are marriages that cannot work, regardless they cannot work. You were able to be with those little things until they began school, those are very formative years and that was so good. I know the feeling you don't want to tell them you can't be there but without the income you have no choice.
I was not able to be with mine then.
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Justi
on February 1, 2013 at 7:31 PM
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Re: Maybe I should add:
There are total contrasts about what to do about most of it. I am not sure it can be brought back again. To me that is so sad.
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Justi
on February 1, 2013 at 7:28 PM
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I guess I learned things late as well! I worked (he didn't), took care of the house, the yard, the shopping, the kids and got them to all of their activities! But, it does wear a person out over time! sam
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sam444
on February 1, 2013 at 5:02 PM
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Justi
Thank you for your comment in my post my friend.
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WileyJohn
on February 1, 2013 at 2:08 PM
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for this gal your pal here, it was all about choices was the feminist
movement. Choices for careers and children and home schooling and being there for toddlers and being honoured for whatever your choice was. I was grateful to be home while my children were pre school. I hated having to tell them later when I was forced to work that Mummy is sorry just be patient, she will be home more next week..... I was proud to become an RN when they were grown and get those lovely pay packets...again my choice...but a marriage ended because I made that choice....all we can do dear one is be true to ourselves and what we feel we are meant to be /to do.
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Kabu
on February 1, 2013 at 1:14 PM
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Maybe I should add:
What to do about is an entirely different question - nobody seems to have a good answer, although there's all kinds of nonsense floating around, of course...
posted by
Nautikos
on February 1, 2013 at 12:36 PM
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Justi
Many sociologists agree that the decay of the family has had and will continue to have serious consequences...
posted by
Nautikos
on February 1, 2013 at 12:33 PM
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