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Re: mneme
Thanks Naut... hopefully it will be better from now on, though I don't have your confidence that he won't try something else later on..!! - I never could tell when things would change, and if it was too quiet for too long, something was going to erupt... a few drinks and who knows what he might be brooding on...
As for my daughter, we are trying. Hasn't been an entirely successful weekend... 
posted by
mneme
on April 9, 2012 at 3:35 AM
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Sam, thank you for your comments... yes it was wrong of him to include her, but he is very clever... she is nearly thirty but doesn't seem to be able to see what he's been doing... and is still coming to terms with her family being so fragmented (much as I have had to do over a number of years). Sigh... daughters.. how I wish (and pray) for a nice man to come along and not mess her about.
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mneme
on April 9, 2012 at 3:30 AM
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Thank you Justi, for your support... the dust is slowly settling... daughter is still not managing it all, and we are both wary... I'm doing the best I can to help her through it.
posted by
mneme
on April 9, 2012 at 3:23 AM
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I don't know all the story. Please just make the best of what you have now and take care of you. Your daughter will come around in time I hope. An abusive person is a really terrible thing to cope with. Take care of yourself and heal as you can. Be blessed.
posted by
Justi
on March 23, 2012 at 6:36 PM
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mneme
I am very glad the case was resolved in your favour, although I really had not expected a different outcome from all you had told us. I would imagine that it's over for good now - your ex would have to be crazy to have another go at you! If nothing else, the cost will probably prevent him...
I fully understand your ambivalent feelings with respect to your daughter, but I would certainly hope that now that the final chapter has been written you two would find a way to move on and forget about past problems...
posted by
Nautikos
on March 16, 2012 at 5:35 PM
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I believe the first thing that is wrong here is that she is included in the business that exists between you and the ex! She needs to stay out of it for her good as well as yours! My ex tried to bring my youngest son into our divorce but I would have none of it! And I said as much! We carried on as mother and son and it never interferred with our relationship! Her father will do what he will and there is no control, but you have control in your area! Choose to be her mom and don't entertain anything from her on the things that concern her not! I wish you all the best and I am glad things went in your favor and that you had someone there with you! Don't let this control your life, have the life you want and deal with the things you must and then let it go! It's just too destructive otherwise! sam
posted by
sam444
on March 16, 2012 at 7:01 AM
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