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Thanks Wiley and sam for your support ... I hate that it's still getting to me after three days, I've been really unsettled today and quite inert. I'll have to tell myself that's what he wants, and get on with things.
posted by
mneme
on February 27, 2012 at 7:11 AM
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The fact of the matter is that he signed a document and it has been court authorized and further his health is his own issue! If he has a heart attack he will have brought it on himself! I am in agreement that the children should stay out of the matter because it not their business for me! I wish you all the best and for goodness sakes do not back down; one concession will lead to another! Trust me, I know, I have gone through and the wanting it to be over at any cost didn't matter at the time but it all catches up with a person and now I regret not having fought him to the bitter end! I stand to lose thousands when I take my teaching retirement! So, just do what's best for you and call it good! sam 
posted by
sam444
on February 27, 2012 at 4:09 AM
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Mneme
For what it's worth, face the fact that divorce is war, the minute a third person is added like a new mate, the war goes nuclear. My wife did the same, my daughters mostly did the same and my sons packed it in with me. Here's how I survived:Read Matthew 10:34 in the Bible even if you're not used to doing that like I wasn't until I was involved in war as you are. That passage gave me hope to this very day. Yup, He came to bring a sword not peace.......especially to families in the throes of divorce. Great to see you again luv.
posted by
WileyJohn
on February 25, 2012 at 2:18 PM
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Just refer her to the lawyer. Obviously your ex. is a waste of space who is
trying through unsettling your daughter to get you to comply to what he wants or on this case doesn't want ...to pay what the court ordered. If he can pay for airfares he can pay what he owes. 
to him.
posted by
Kabu
on February 25, 2012 at 12:27 PM
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Wow, I've become a 'featured' blog, twice in five minutes..! Pity it's the middle of the night for the wider audience...smile.. sleep well, America...!
posted by
mneme
on February 25, 2012 at 12:47 AM
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Re: mneme
Actually Naut, at one point she did ask me (last time) to send my lawyer's contact details to her, to send on to him... completely unnecessary because he has them.. and yes my lawyer has told him she can't help him. Hard to ignore it, but I'm doing my best to. Nice to have the support here.
posted by
mneme
on February 25, 2012 at 12:45 AM
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Thanks for thinking of me Taps xx
posted by
mneme
on February 25, 2012 at 12:42 AM
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Re: I am sorry I can't say much......or help...
Thanks for looking in on me... I'm really fine, just would rather not have the situation.. smile..
posted by
mneme
on February 25, 2012 at 12:42 AM
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posted by
TAPS.
on February 24, 2012 at 9:18 PM
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mneme
I completely understand your ambivalent feelings about what your daughter is doing. But let me quote:..."the agreement which he signed, and which was ratified in court." That's it! Do not allow yourself to be brow-beaten into anything that would just open up a can of worms. Just say NO!
And frankly, I would even tell my daughter to get in touch with my lawyer if she insists prattling on about that. And your lawyer, I trust, has been instructed to say, "NO!" 
posted by
Nautikos
on February 24, 2012 at 6:35 PM
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I am sorry I can't say much......or help...
I don't really know what's going on......I will have to read your posts and catch up...
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 24, 2012 at 5:46 PM
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