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Sometimes parents do things they shouldn't and hurt their kids. They may not even have a clue about it, even if it is obvious. If you choose to forgive and keep forgiving when this comes to mind, I'm sure it will help you deal with it. I am happy that you and your dad have a good relationship now and you can work for (with) him too!
posted by
mariposa75
on February 11, 2010 at 10:00 PM
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FSI
Meditation would be good for you to 'let go and let God' kind of thing my friend. It will help you a great deal if you can learn to do that. I'm talking from personal experience here and in my life I taught myself to drop people, situations, thoughts, and just move on and turn 'em over to a God of my understanding.
posted by
WileyJohn
on February 8, 2010 at 7:21 PM
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Wow...I'm surprised you never told him after holding it in all these years.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on February 8, 2010 at 6:32 PM
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It's so good you can get all this off your chest by writing it down. Takes a lot of courage to face it like that.
posted by
Rockingrector_retd
on February 8, 2010 at 10:23 AM
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FSI, it's good that you are writing this. You need to get this out and then, you can remember just what you think (in your writing here) - that parents don't always come with direction manuals.
~ At times, I know as a parent, I can look back and think, "what was I thinking?" but then realize I did what my nature knew to do - at that point in time. and I pray whatever residual negative marks were made that they will be redeemed by each new day that promises even more moments for me to (make mistakes...I mean) continue doing the best I can be. I liked this note FSI ~ I do see the Love and respect you've come to grips with in your growth. Elyse
posted by
elysianfields
on February 8, 2010 at 10:15 AM
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Dad should have gone to the game no argument with that from me ......BUT
parents are human and we make mistakes. There are a few things I would like to have done differently and that is for sure.
Dad needs to read this post and then you can both put this all behind you. For as much as he needs to know,you need to fully forgive his mistake. .......and that is what it was,,,,a very tired man who probably just couldn'tthink clearly or who was too exhausted to sit through a game with a couple of active boys.
This is a grand post and I am proud my friend that you have written it.
posted by
Kabu
on February 8, 2010 at 8:53 AM
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as you know its not a good thing to hold in anger and depression, I am sure your dad would of helped but you needed to let him know. Did you ever tell him? I hope in the future you are more outspoken and tell him when your down.
posted by
Lanetay
on February 8, 2010 at 8:23 AM
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I think you are right that your father should have attended the game! I do see his side of it as well! He was overly excited to reward an employee and it got the better of him! It was a huge surprise and he couldn't wait! We have few special moments with children and I am sure that if he had it to do again he would have stayed at the game! sam
posted by
sam444
on February 8, 2010 at 5:48 AM
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You working with your father in the business now sounds like the healthy lifestyle for you emotionally. BC-A, Bill’s RJLst
posted by
BC-A
on February 8, 2010 at 5:48 AM
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