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Thanks sam.. it's funny how my ex-husband with his years of insidious nastiness didn't have the lasting effect this guy did, abandoning me when I had extracted myself from a bad situation. My new man is lovely .. kind and understanding, which is what I need - not that we dwell on it.. if anything comes up it is usually over in a flash and it is always to do with the second guy.. I knew my ex was a bully.. I had no idea that the wolf in sheep's clothing, the man I trusted enough to leave my marriage, would turn out to be more damaging to my sense of self-worth than anything my ex-husband ever did. So I think you are right .. I need to somehow sever all those past associations so that I can get back my sense of who I am.
posted by
mneme
on February 13, 2010 at 12:31 PM
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Re: mneme
Thanks Naut.. always the gentleman xx
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mneme
on February 13, 2010 at 12:26 PM
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That's true mac ... this person invades my sleep sometimes, and I am still hurt by his actions.. no wonder I'm wary of being hurt again.
But we (my new bloke and I) have been painting in my house today, and it's been nice.. smile.. he makes me happy, or, more to the point perhaps, he doesn't make me unhappy, which is very, very pleasant. At our age, and after thirty five years of growing up in our separate lives, we have both had more than enough angst to want to simply look after each other in that respect.
The joke now is of course my unpredictable cognitive processes which sometimes introduce irrelevancies into a conversation.. well..
I know what I mean and how I got from A to B mentally, and if he can keep up with that, we have a lovely quiet life..! smile..
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mneme
on February 13, 2010 at 12:25 PM
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mneme
posted by
Nautikos
on February 9, 2010 at 7:14 PM
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Take it very, very slowly mneme. Wounds can take a long time to heal. Unfortunately you will not get rid of the old mental baggage in the same flippant manner that an airline can lose your physical baggage.
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johnmacnab
on February 9, 2010 at 5:37 PM
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I hope you can free yourself of the baggage, it is such unnecessary weight! I know I carried mine for too many ears! sam
posted by
sam444
on February 8, 2010 at 4:18 AM
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