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It sounds like it was a special time for you all, in spite of the sadness.  And yes, it's nice to know that someone loves us for our oddities:)

posted by mneme on January 12, 2010 at 2:07 AM | link to this | reply

Azur, We teach our children to mourn. Sometimes thay already have notions.
Here's hoping discovery of another of life's aspects is constructive.

posted by majroj on January 7, 2010 at 9:08 AM | link to this | reply

A wonderful loving post.  It is good that they have you.

posted by TAPS. on January 1, 2010 at 9:36 PM | link to this | reply

Azur
I remember I was quite then not able to understand, when my grandmom died ... in India you lay a dead on the floor, it was winter ... seeing this, my brother and I started to laugh uncontrollably. But that is not what I mean here. It must be so hard to tell a child about loss.

posted by anib on December 28, 2009 at 10:45 PM | link to this | reply

That was a very sad event for you and your family. It's especially difficult to break news like that to a child. My sincere sympathies to you and your family.  

posted by elinjo on December 28, 2009 at 6:51 AM | link to this | reply

? J  Christmas could have been sad without your smile love. BC-A,  Bill’s RJLst

posted by BC-A on December 28, 2009 at 5:58 AM | link to this | reply

Azur
I think you did really well to even have Christmas with such a heavy heart. God Bless you my friend.

posted by WileyJohn on December 27, 2009 at 8:28 PM | link to this | reply

Azur
I too am moved, but I am glad that the kindness of those around you at this time of sadness gives you some solace...

posted by Nautikos on December 27, 2009 at 7:37 PM | link to this | reply

This is so very moving. I'm sure you were right, to tell the grandchildren straight out, tell it as it was. My thoughts and prayers with you all.

posted by Rockingrector_retd on December 27, 2009 at 10:10 AM | link to this | reply

How to tell is so right! It is never easy and the vagueness can mask so many things! It pains you are in so much pain, I keep you in my prayers! sam

posted by sam444 on December 27, 2009 at 10:05 AM | link to this | reply

Hey, that comparison to a small boat was well made...I liked it so much.
This is very much like me.

posted by Straightforward on December 27, 2009 at 6:12 AM | link to this | reply

Being loved for this is one of the greatest gifts...this is a tough
Christmas, but you write beautifully even now...

posted by Ariala on December 27, 2009 at 6:06 AM | link to this | reply

Sometimes when you're hanging on and hiding hurts from everyone
tears are a gift. What a sweet-sorrow mix of a Christmas... I'm sorry for your loss and proud of your "vagueness," the little boat on the river. Beautifully written.

posted by Pat_B on December 27, 2009 at 6:03 AM | link to this | reply

that would be too touch for me to handle
how do you do that, I say honestly. and straight forward as possible. I was left in the dark when my father died, he was the center of my universe, and the trauma of finding out and not being handled correctly hunts me till today. So I would talk about it to her as much as possible not as little as possible.

posted by Tzippy on December 26, 2009 at 10:34 PM | link to this | reply

A heartful story
Thanks for sharing this was very well written. Also, thank you for visiting my blog. I hope your New Year is a happy one.

posted by Hackthorne19 on December 26, 2009 at 9:20 PM | link to this | reply

A tough one dear one and I am sorry.
This has been a really rough year for you I know and I feel for you and your children. Their loving Grandmother is gone but I am sure she will stay alive in your hearts forever. God grant you a better year in 2010.

posted by Kabu on December 26, 2009 at 7:48 PM | link to this | reply