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Azur
One thing we all tend to forget about patients slipping away, as we try to pretend otherwise - if the patient is still aware, they know that they are slipping away and sometimes pretend otherwise for their loved ones benefit.
posted by
johnmacnab
on December 19, 2009 at 7:37 AM
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Just a quick thank you note for your valuable advice on the book signing party. Pat_B said the same as you, to let someone else handle the sale. I only have 20 copies, we'll see how it goes.
posted by
vogue
on December 10, 2009 at 5:38 AM
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It is good
to say what you need to say.
posted by
Whacky
on December 7, 2009 at 5:40 PM
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Azur, isn't it amazing how we want to make up for all the lost time and all
the hurt healed when we feel a dear one is about to go on the long voyage?
posted by
Straightforward
on December 7, 2009 at 5:17 PM
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Quite a problem for your son, to be a jerk teenager just as someone
precious to the family is dying. But, most of us get to be that jerk with nothing heavy going on around us. I am so sorry this is not so for him. Really sorry that his youth isn't boringly regular.
And mostly, I am sorry for you as you have the shared history, the long time line, the meshing of souls periodically, as your younger children do not, with their grandmother.
I was missing my father very much this week and haven't in a long time. I found an ancient and terrible medicine that he made us use when our throats were sore. It had an expiration date on it of years ago, but I was so ill and desperate last night. I sprayed my throat in his memory, "Damnit, Just Do It !!" he'd say. I felt that I would either be helped into a welcomed death, at that point in the week, or find succor from Heaven in it.
It was a half helpful experience, but it all made him live again, inside my house and head last night, vividly alive and irritated, hehehehehhhh.
Life is a series of vignettes, or no? , those remembered by your wonderful collaborator there and those being created daily in real life, real time, real hurt.
I would that all of our stories were gentler ones.
posted by
benzinha
on December 7, 2009 at 4:56 PM
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I meant peace of course.. darned interventionist software spellchecking me... (I hope that's all it was)..
posted by
mneme
on December 7, 2009 at 2:13 AM
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Good news about the book Azur - you sound quite excited by it.. I understand how it is when grandmothers slip away, it's good that your son made his piece with her.
posted by
mneme
on December 7, 2009 at 2:12 AM
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Good news about the book Azur - you sound quite excited by it.. I understand how it is when grandmothers slip away, it's good that your son made his piece with her.
posted by
mneme
on December 7, 2009 at 2:11 AM
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This is going to be the next big Australian book
out in time for Christmas 2010. Bryce Courtney.....move over.
posted by
Kabu
on December 6, 2009 at 11:51 AM
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Azur
It always sad when a light is dimming - but I'm glad to hear that you have a project that not only fascinates you but will also pay off...
posted by
Nautikos
on December 6, 2009 at 6:41 AM
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Re:
That last didn't come out right. I hope you know my prayers are with you as you say goodbye to someone dear to you.
posted by
myrrhage_
on December 6, 2009 at 6:15 AM
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Azur, what a timely stroke of grace, this opportunity coming up the way it did. I can't help noticing the bittersweet parallels, two people nearing the end of life. It seems you're getting to know them both - one for the first time, the other all over again in vigil.
posted by
myrrhage_
on December 6, 2009 at 6:14 AM
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How wonderful! It came because your ship has come in! You know I am stoked! sam
posted by
sam444
on December 6, 2009 at 5:50 AM
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There's so much in the story of the grandson, angles and
unexpected curveballs. The sense of girding for impending trouble seeps through the distance and the screen where your words are. I hope it goes better than you expect.
The book with everything cross-reffed... How cool is that?
posted by
Pat_B
on December 6, 2009 at 4:53 AM
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You did it well sir. BC-A, Bill’s RLJst
posted by
BC-A
on December 5, 2009 at 7:25 PM
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Oops premature ENTER buttonaculation
Good to read you have a mission again. I am very sorry about the delays and fandangos revolving around medical care for you,
If your subject does not have a scanner or you want to make sure you have SOME form of copy of the photos, bring a digital camera with a MACRO setting, pick a flat spot with good lighting including from the sides, and photograph them on the spot; check the quality as soon as possible, maybe bring a laptop and tranfer them ASAP? You wil also need to hold the camera absolutely steady.
Good on you! 
posted by
majroj
on December 5, 2009 at 5:05 PM
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Apologies for absence.
posted by
majroj
on December 5, 2009 at 5:01 PM
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