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Re: I know what you are saying
I know what you mean about balance. I realize I have tended to give too much advice at times. I don't need to jump in as often.
posted by
dancin_grandma
on August 28, 2009 at 3:35 AM
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I know what you are saying
I try and practice 'distance' with my son. Although the relationship he and I have is quite different to the one between me and my mother, I know its hard sometime. The real challenge is: when to jump in and when to jump out. Its a fine balance. I find that being aware is the first step, then breathing deeply (I mean it!) and taking a step back to review my own emotions and thoughts, and then responding. Sometimes counting till 10, 20 or 60 is a good idea, just to get some perspective on the situaiton!
posted by
Greenfields
on August 26, 2009 at 9:11 PM
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In the latter part of 2003 I lost my mother. You can’t live with them and you can’t live without them love. BC-A, Bill’s RJJst
posted by
BC-A
on August 25, 2009 at 12:50 PM
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dancing grandma
I can sympathize with you. It is natural for us to conflict with our daughters. They have to grow away from co-dependance with us. Jeremiah 29:11 tells us that He has a plan for each of us. My daughter, your daughter and us have different plans. It may seem rocky, as mine was but give it a chance. Pray for her. My daughter and I had very hard times for years. She is now my very best Christian friend. God bless and keep both you and your daughter. Thank you for the kind comment you left on my post.
posted by
Justi
on August 25, 2009 at 10:11 AM
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My daughter is 22 and I know what you mean! I try to stay in the background but it is so difficult when I see something that is going to cause problems! I just say, make sure we can fix the mistakes and life will be good! sam
posted by
sam444
on August 23, 2009 at 9:03 PM
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