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Re: mneme
Bless you Wiley... I've had that experience some of the time... I just keep getting additional shocks from someone I thought was more committed than proved to be the case. I went through hell for three years, took a prolonged emotional battering, and when I made an enormous leap of faith there was no-one there to catch me, no one human that is. I doubt either one even realises the extent of the damage that was done, and to even try to talk about it is just manipulation, and so I don't bring it up.
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mneme
on May 24, 2009 at 10:13 PM
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mneme
I remember being where you are now with the thoughts of what might have been, you really loved him and then got to the point of realization that I did when I realized my first wife had never loved me but couldn't say it in words.
It took me twenty years to figure it all out, much like you are doing now, and my heart breaks with the sadness of it for you. But you will come through this time and your quiet time spent with the God of your understanding as you do when you can, that is what will lead you into the light of a real love even if that real love is with Him alone.
Your life is going to surprise you one of these days when you will very suddenly wake up with the joy of KNOWING He, God, really loves you and has carried you to such a place of beauty that you knew was there but hadn't yet found it. I pray for you my friend. God Bless you.
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WileyJohn
on May 24, 2009 at 7:51 PM
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Re: To be honest with you. ., if my relationship with my husband was
Thanks Joe Love - actually I didn't always feel like that - only when he was so nasty to me. I couldn't reconcile the two sides of him. I see what you mean, but independence has never been my priority - just co-operation and an equal partnership, with some humour instead of all that friction. It's like being married to a highly-strung and aggressive guard dog.. you don't go too near when they're not docile. Trouble is, he could turn so quickly. Nothing wrong with 'him' of course - I was just out for trouble - nonsense of course. So it wasn't really the 'husband' thing.. just the way the person got worse over the years. (I hope you don't mind my rambling on, it helps to sort my thoughts out.)
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mneme
on May 24, 2009 at 4:54 PM
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Bless you Naut
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mneme
on May 24, 2009 at 4:46 PM
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Re: Yes, one day it will stop...
Thanks Kazzyaman
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mneme
on May 24, 2009 at 4:46 PM
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To be honest with you. ., if my relationship with my husband was
so horrible that I couldn't stand the sight of him, the last thing I would be doing after gaining my independence would be having ANOTHER ONE (no matter if he were nice or not) sharing a morning swim or coffee in the morning.
Please don't take this comment as mean-spirited, cause it's not. Just offering friendly conversation to the subject that you have written about.
Joe
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Joe_Love
on May 24, 2009 at 12:25 PM
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Nautikos
on May 24, 2009 at 11:43 AM
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Yes, one day it will stop...
posted by
Kayzzaman
on May 24, 2009 at 4:34 AM
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