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posted by
_Symphony_
on April 7, 2009 at 2:01 AM
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Working my way up up up up up up and up... ... ... and up!
You've done a great job! Have no regrets.
posted by
2Philomena
on April 4, 2009 at 11:27 AM
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Never down play being a mother
I had my one and only child at 49 and I do not regret it for the world although plenty of other people have had their say on the matter and stuck their noses in about it. I think you should never downplay being a mum. My son is the light of my life and most precious to me. I would have loved to have had other children and earlier on but I would have worked as well as been a mum. I do not think it is realistic in this day and age to expect to have a free ride at home with the kids unless you have a hubby with a great job.
I actually lost my job through the prejudice of others superiors and colleagues who felt that I should never have had my child at 49 because it is damaging for him to have such an 'old mother'. As I said their prejudice. Mothers are simply mothers and it is a state of being that is apart from your work and profession. It is a state of being and about your connection with a little person or persons who will always be connected to you if you let them or allow them to be.
I love being a Mum
and I love my boy and kids in general.
posted by
Norwood
on April 4, 2009 at 7:25 AM
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Had my son at 19, daughter at 21
Divorced a couple years later. Still trying to figure out my life as well. thanks for the honesty~
posted by
piggens
on April 3, 2009 at 8:50 PM
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we wanted a family first, but both of us worked a few years first....
Once Holly came along, Liz got a job driving a school bus, so she could still be home for lunch with Holly...and this continued with Naomi...she was still a sort of stay-at-home Mum....she was always there when the girls were....
I've been working it seems like forever..
.....
posted by
Rumor
on April 3, 2009 at 8:08 PM
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I think there are pluses and minuses whichever way a mother chooses to balance motherhood and career. It can be tough having babies so young, but on the plus side you have youth on your side and that's a big plus in terms of energy! I'm glad things are working out for you now.
posted by
mneme
on April 3, 2009 at 6:24 PM
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Career
means nothing to me and never has done. The day job is a necessity. But ambition, well that's as alive and kicking as ever
posted by
malcolm
on April 3, 2009 at 1:22 PM
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Symph
With guys the 'job-first-or-kids-first' question somehow never comes up...What
does come up is the question of whether to get a job or an education after high school, and unfortunately too many guys opt for a job, even if they're not forced to...
posted by
Nautikos
on April 3, 2009 at 6:06 AM
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sorry mak - was mariaki .....
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 3, 2009 at 5:46 AM
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thanks so much for your comments...much appreciated...I have enjoyed
reading your views and such...lustorlove you made me feel sad for you.....................but can I just say to timmy and mak.........I didn't say "just a mother" I said I knew there was more to my life than just "being a mother"....I am a single mother I know exactly what being a mother is all about!! but just being a mother....and being just a mother means two different things when it is written....see?
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 3, 2009 at 5:45 AM
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Symphony
Firstly I have to say that there is no such thing as being 'just a mother' you should know the many and varied jobs that fall under this umbrella. I actually chose to do both at the same time and for me this worked very well; many blessings and thanks
posted by
mariaki
on April 3, 2009 at 5:28 AM
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Very interesting life-incidents. I have been staying alive since 1982...3 years after I came out of University. I know who the problem is and I am solving it! I'm only 55!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on April 2, 2009 at 10:19 PM
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Symphony
You've said it..those precious moments with your kids - you were there
through them all..and to me that is the greatest achievement..
Thank you for dropping by earlier.
posted by
shobana
on April 2, 2009 at 7:11 PM
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I was already working in my current career...
..by the time I had kids. Of course, I would have done
some things different...the women I married! lol
posted by
metalrat
on April 2, 2009 at 4:43 PM
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I'm a male and so I don't face the same issues as a woman would. By default I have chosen a career.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on April 2, 2009 at 3:55 PM
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I had my children. I had 9 children and at times it was not easy. Now there are 5 on their own and I am so blessed! I don't think it would have gone so well for them it mom had been working when they were little.
Now I am working, out of necessity. I still have 4 at home, the youngest being 9. I only have to be gone for a couple hours each evening and sometimes they work with me.
All the time you spend with your children, you will not regret later.
posted by
mariposa75
on April 2, 2009 at 3:40 PM
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I had my Children first but I had to leave a marriage to have the career in
nursing that I wanted. Now I look back the journey has and is taking many twists and turns and life is being lived to the full. Love life and live whatever is thrown at you.Sometimes it is difficult and I've cried and stormed but always the challenges have been worth meeting.
posted by
Kabu
on April 2, 2009 at 2:18 PM
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Symphony
posted by
WileyJohn
on April 2, 2009 at 2:10 PM
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I wanted my children first. I was married three years before the first one came along. I had just about given up hope. Before I was 30, I had my fourth and last. I didn't go back to being employed until they were all in school and old enough to take care of themselves on getting home from school before mom got home from work. I was fortunate though to have a husband who was very helpful with the house and with the children.
posted by
TAPS.
on April 2, 2009 at 2:06 PM
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When I first got out of school getting married and having kids was
the furthest from my mind. After a few years in childcare I decided I was never having kids. LOL I don't regret it one bit. Daycare never paid well so I would have never been able to afford kids unless I married a rich guy or something. The thought of me getting married is another story. LOL
The only thing I regret is not going to business school like my grandparents wanted me to. Then again, if I was in business, I'd probably be laid off now! 
posted by
shelly_b
on April 2, 2009 at 1:17 PM
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Symph,
I totally know what you're saying. I stopped working when I moved out of state for a while but then when I was planning to go back to work after my mom died, I was preggers. My girl is almost 19 months now but I'm forced to go to work due to money (or lack thereof!) I don't want to put her in day care. That is KILLING me! 
posted by
SpitFire70
on April 2, 2009 at 1:09 PM
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I know how you feel, I was a stay at home mom for twenty years, in which I always feel I wasted twenty years of my life. My kids are almost all grown, but still need their mom. I feel like you do but 30 years too late. Life just flew by and I went to do my daily everyday life and now I am 65 and there is so much behind me and how much time ahead. I am in pretty good shape and think like a 18 year old. But what happened to my life, I put it on hold when I had my last child at 42, the dates I had never led to marriage and my daughter didn't want her mom to have a man. Now she has a bf its different, now where is mom still alone. Be sure you take care of yourself along with your kids.
posted by
Lanetay
on April 2, 2009 at 12:41 PM
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I was a working mother! I was a school administrator for my career! My children spent way too many hours in a school building, eating many dinners there! I would have found a way to get them home and relaxed! They are fine, it would be a childhood memory I would prefer not to have! I think you should pursue your dream and not take no for an answer! sam
posted by
sam444
on April 2, 2009 at 12:33 PM
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I was accepted to a 4 years school and had planned on pursuing a degree
in journalism, but fell in love and got married, instead. In some ways I regret it, but I had two beautiful children from that marriage. I wouldn't change having them for anything.
posted by
hazel_st_cricket
on April 2, 2009 at 11:19 AM
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symphony
Being a mother is a great responsibility and a great gift. There is no "just being a mother"
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 2, 2009 at 11:12 AM
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It's funny how things tend to work themselves out,
no matter what we plan. But as it turns out, yeah, I'm pretty happy with things and no, I don't think I'd do anything differently. Occasionally, I want to go back in time to when I was a snotty, annoying frat boy and just sucker punch the hell out of myself for being such a jerk, but other than that, no. Everything has turned out well in spite of me.
Sounds like things worked for you, and that's great.
posted by
strat
on April 2, 2009 at 11:12 AM
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