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Hi Neil
long time no see... thanks for such kind words, here and in my other post
Lovely flowers too:)
posted by
mneme
on February 17, 2009 at 3:13 AM
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Thy will be done on Earth ...but Lord, ease the pain and tears
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posted by
ILLUMINATI8
on February 17, 2009 at 1:19 AM
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Re: It's not a question of love OR insanity. Sounds to me like both
I did believe he would step up to the plate, Pat B, and it is a lot healthier to unscramble my head all over the page than to try to remember it all in any civilised fashion when talking face to face. It is not possible at this juncture to walk away. I need answers, and he has agreed to talk with me so that I can hold my head up around this situation. The person ultimately responsible for all of this is the one who decided we would live elsewhere than I signed up for when I married him. Two years was what we agreed. Not seventeen. Don't deprive a woman of everything in her life that matter to her, which for me included a my big family and my sense of belonging, for that long, without taking the trouble to provide some of what's missing. Can't meet a soulmate if one isn't in the proximity in the first place.
posted by
mneme
on February 17, 2009 at 1:13 AM
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It's not a question of love OR insanity. Sounds to me like both
at once. Since I'm on the outside of this situation, and since it doesn't affect me personally, I no doubt see it differently than you do. But for what it's worth, this guy doesn't seem to act like a lover. Never did, from what you've written. He sounds more like a predator, a scam artist. These guys love the game, the chase, but once they've won, they lose interest. There's no heart in a man like that, no negotiating points because they never invest anything in the relationship, they have nothing to lose. Guys like this choose women who are walking wounded from another relationship, women who have been frozen out or discounted, whose self-esteem is in the crapper and accept the putdowns and rejections as what they deserve. It is
not. The only way to beat this is to give ourselves a break, walk away, quit squandering our energy on them.
posted by
Pat_B
on February 16, 2009 at 4:26 PM
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