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Hi Sam
Thank you for your support:) I am inclined to think the same way and would let him get away with it more if I were younger. My career suffered with moving around and playing second fiddle to his.. he has to play fair whether he wants to or not.
posted by
mneme
on January 5, 2009 at 2:56 PM
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Bhaskar thank you so much
I have left; I have been separated a year. You are so right; a loveless marriage is not a marriage at all.
posted by
mneme
on January 5, 2009 at 2:55 PM
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Thank you BC-A
There have been days when I haven't ever thought I would look ahead. Hopefully they are past now.
posted by
mneme
on January 5, 2009 at 2:54 PM
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While others exist that want the responsibilities that he shuns and means * Relevant thoughts on marital status and situation.
posted by
BC-A
on December 6, 2008 at 12:12 PM
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mneme
I was saddened to read of all the troubles that you're facing, and that it has been going on so for quite a while now. You had better think of leaving him. A marriage has no meaning if all love is lost. I will, as others too will, pray for you. Upon closing one door He will open others for you.
posted by
Bhaskar.ing
on December 6, 2008 at 6:42 AM
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I am terribly sorry that the financial thing is getting in the way. I will pray for you daily until you are liberated. Don't let him destroy who you are. I think you are a fine person and he is totally wrong to hold you down with what seems to be a bit of blackmail. The small things you have requested to be able to move forward are ignored by him because he seems to have lost his perspective. My ex was rather similar and my life improved when I rid myself of him. He got more than he deserved in the divorce settlement but my liberation had no monetary value and thus he can rot with the money he got that was mine! sam
posted by
sam444
on December 6, 2008 at 6:19 AM
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Thanks Sam..
I am away from him. Unfortunately I am still financially dependent on him until it is all sorted out. I have a strong offer of some temporary work up to Christmas which will help me top up, and am getting better at not letting him get to me. Still playing the hurt and magnanimous wronged husband, however.
posted by
mneme
on December 6, 2008 at 6:11 AM
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Thanks Pat B,
for hanging in there with me ... I'm getting better at not feeling sorry for him any more.
posted by
mneme
on December 6, 2008 at 6:08 AM
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I am with Pat b. on this one. He loves controlling you. You need to get away from him! sam
posted by
sam444
on December 6, 2008 at 6:07 AM
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You will not find your equilibrium until you really let go of him.
Let the lawyers do your talking. You're still dancing on his string, playing along with his games. Just call me the voice of experience.
posted by
Pat_B
on December 6, 2008 at 4:58 AM
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