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You are all so kind
thank you for such supportive comments.. I'm afraid I don't feel much like commenting or reading around the blogs at the moment. I'll pick up again before long but for the moment all I seem to be able to do is to process what's going on around me and to try to keep on top.
posted by
mneme
on September 3, 2008 at 12:09 AM
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You have already received such valuable comments on your situation that I don't need to add. So, let's turn to the lighter fare: chocolate, strong, strong real tea (not from a tea bag) and- according to temper, a good cry or a good scream will cure anything.
posted by
vogue
on September 2, 2008 at 9:35 PM
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... when I say set the baggage down, I don't mean leave the books, or mirror. Take what you want. It's your turn to do that. Long overdue. Mmmm, can I have another Tim Tam please.
posted by
Azur
on September 2, 2008 at 6:45 PM
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Mneme
I can't really improve on those earlier comments. As Pat B says you are not starting from the beginning. Sometimes it is just a little harder to see the good in ourselves. All of us who read you and interact with you see it. As Troosha says, you can do it. Set the baggage down, oh I know it sounds trite but is not meant so. Set it down, and take a step from this point. You can only step from this point for this is where you are. Oh, and pass me a Tim Tam please.
posted by
Azur
on September 2, 2008 at 6:43 PM
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I'm sorry to hear about your heart ache on top of a difficult divorce. I wish you the best of luck. Like the other comments you have received, you really need to stand up for yourself and claim what is rightfully yours. Do not let anyone manipulate you. You will need your half when you start to move on. Good luck with your degree and every thing else.
posted by
Lotus_Flower
on September 2, 2008 at 10:09 AM
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mneme
As difficult as it is at time for us to find our “spine” sounds like your life has taken some twists and turns which now require you stand up for yourself. Sure… it’s easier to just acquiesce or be manipulated by your soon to be X, but now’s the time for you to stand up for yourself. And it’s a remarkable process. Once you take the first step you find more strength in the next step and so on. Time to stand tall and put one foot in front of the other. You can do it!!!
posted by
Troosha
on September 2, 2008 at 9:53 AM
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Tea gives more energy and power to us than anything !
posted by
afzal50
on September 2, 2008 at 9:01 AM
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I'm sorry you've got so much crap to deal with. I know it's terrifying.
But you're not really starting over from absolute scratch. You've got experience, things you've learned about yourself. You can put one foot in front of the other, take care of your immediate needs, find patience to wait for your good results. Remember, time wounds all heels. The ex will have to give up things he wants, he is no longer in charge. The "kind man" who wimped out on you is clearly not worthy of you. (easy for me to say, distanced as I am from your situation). I know a bit about wimps and heartless jerks. Maybe you'll be lucky enough never to run into another one. If not, you'll certainly recognize them before they can get close enough to cause any trouble. Take care of yourself. You can. :)pat
posted by
Pat_B
on September 2, 2008 at 6:32 AM
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