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Hi Pat, I do need some more objectivity I know:) I like being on my own most of the time but I am not being very productive work-wise - PhD grindingly slow, decisions to be made about where I complete it - if I complete it at all.. writing is not the problem, putting it into productive work is the problem:)
posted by
mneme
on June 30, 2008 at 2:37 AM
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azur, you're right, and I am trying to think ahead. I may be able to offer ESL teaching from my home - there is a large Polish community here and I am already helping a young girl from work. I do have to do something about the financials. Thanks for your support.
posted by
mneme
on June 30, 2008 at 2:35 AM
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What the others said was good advice.
When you're feeling lost, you need a guide. Once you're back on the path, you'll find your way with confidence again. It helps to talk to someone who doesn't have an emotional investment in the outcome of your decision -- family and friends often mean well, but they're not always objective. Maybe it would help to remember you're not really starting over from square one because you've learned a thing or two. Love yourself and keep writing. :)pat
posted by
Pat_B
on June 24, 2008 at 4:55 AM
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Mneme
Sometimes we have to hit a wall and then there is no place to go but to turn around and look outward again. Try not to worry too much about what the dinner meant. Just enjoy the companionship for what it is. If you feel you need to let your friend know that you are not looking for anything right now but you enjoy his friendship do so, that's if you are worried he has expectations.
As for the job. Forgeddaboutit. Try to think how you'd enjoy working for whatever the money is. Of course i know on the face of it it doesn't seem so simple. But here is an opportunity to think about what you'd like to do, or where you may be needed. I don't know of course. Making money was never my forte and there is only thing I can actually do well enough. As well as getting to bed not too late, make sure to take a walk each day. I make myself do it and it helps.
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Azur
on June 23, 2008 at 3:39 PM
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Hi Maggie Mae
thanks for your good wishes, I appreciate it. ADs help, also with the anxiety. Pity they can't give you pills for decision-making :) Early night coming up, always helps. Hope you are well yourself Maggie
posted by
mneme
on June 23, 2008 at 3:14 PM
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Hi, mneme............................
Gosh, how do I say this? Perhaps you need to see a doctor and look into the possibility that your are depressed. Maybe you need a little help, sweetie. My heart goes out to you.
There's nothing wrong with having dinner with a friend and enjoying it and a hug never hurt anybody. It sounds to me like you need to put that husband, or ex-husband, (whatever he is) out the door and change the locks. He's ruining your life. As for the job, there's another one out there for you, but maybe you need to get your life together first so you can concentrate on it rather than your situation.
I don't mean to get into your business, but obviously you need someone to advise you and someone to talk to. I hope you find that someone and that you can be happy. I will pray for you and hope you find the strength to do that. Take care, darlin', and God bless. Love, Maggie
posted by
MaggieMae
on June 23, 2008 at 2:47 PM
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