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mneme
Wow! I'm reminded of one of Pat_B's recent posts when she talks about her daughter's 'future ex-husband.' Good for you,mneme.
posted by
johnmacnab
on March 11, 2008 at 6:46 PM
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Thanks Bhaskar
I've been popping into your blog and reading - there doesn't seem to be a calling card for expressing appreciation for your literary exegesis:) or should that be exegeses...
posted by
mneme
on March 11, 2008 at 4:53 PM
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Sinome
Thank you. My heart is mending nicely since I removed myself from the scene.
posted by
mneme
on March 11, 2008 at 4:50 PM
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Hi Maggie Mae
Thanks sweetie.. I'm sorry I faded out for a while, all I could manage was a comment that I was pretty tied up. There was a lot of organising to do, along with the continuing debate (a euphemism). Remarkably, he has calmed right down and we seem to be getting on okay at a distance. Perhaps someone had to just make the decision for him. I hope it stays quiet :)
posted by
mneme
on March 11, 2008 at 4:49 PM
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elysianfields
Thank you, nice to see you visiting here.
posted by
mneme
on March 11, 2008 at 4:43 PM
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WileyJohn
Wiley, bless you. You were kind to me too when Iit wasn't going so well for me, and I thank you. I'm happy for you both :)
posted by
mneme
on March 11, 2008 at 4:41 PM
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Hi Kabu
I've been following your story and was very pleased when you and Wiley became engaged. I never thought of telling my STBE that I left him for me. Maybe he would accept that one :) I did leave for my peace of mind, however. Maybe that's why he resisted so strongly, he knew I wouldn't want to come back to it all.
posted by
mneme
on March 11, 2008 at 4:39 PM
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I felt incredibly close to you while I was reading this. I just had to read
it again several times. I wonder if you know how similar my story has been to yours and that In Novemeber I left Aust. and came here to Canada and found the love of my life. The other saide of the coin. One of the good guys, our Wiley John. It has taught me that it can be done if you really want to. I just looked at the abusive ex. one day and said I want a divorce and I walked out and that has been it. I didn't leave him for Wiley, I left him for me. This love has grwn from a beautiful friendship since then.
posted by
Kabu
on March 9, 2008 at 10:11 AM
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mneme
I can't tell you how happy I am to read this luv, good for you, bon courage. It is wonderful to have you back here in Blogit my friend and I'm proud of you for your decisions.
posted by
WileyJohn
on March 9, 2008 at 9:20 AM
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Well I must say, you write and share well...and I'm still learning of my own life so I find it interesting your firm way of handling any manipulation (gosh I don't know it may be hard for me to do something like that, my atm? LOL...no seriously)... I thank you for visiting my blog and will be back to read more of yours ...
Elyse
posted by
elysianfields
on March 8, 2008 at 6:35 PM
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mneme, how are you, Sweetie?
Gosh, it's good to see you. I've wondered for months now where and how you were. The last I heard from you, things were pretty tough there. I'm glad you got a burst of strength and broke out. Sometimes it's the only answer. He's been controlling you for so long, maybe you'll find that going back isn't the answer at all - I hope you figure out what's best for you and that it works out. You sound good, girl, and I'm happy for you. I hope you won't fade away again without any word of where you are with your life. Thank God you're ok and thank you for posting. I'm glad you did.
I got really excited when I saw you in my comments section this morning. So glad you visited me. Thanks. 
posted by
MaggieMae
on March 8, 2008 at 3:38 PM
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Good for you girl, be strong and don't do anything rash . Think about things once, twice and then go with your heart, its rarely wrong. Take care of you.
posted by
Sinome
on March 8, 2008 at 11:42 AM
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mneme
Welcome again to Blogit. I have always thought control to be a form of domination. It's good that you could sever the already deteriorating relationship and come out a winner, Wish you all the very best that life and a good renewed situation can offer.
posted by
Bhaskar.ing
on March 8, 2008 at 5:49 AM
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Thanks BC-A
Sometimes it flows, sometimes it doesn't:) I'm recovering some energy at last. Nice to be back and posting.
posted by
mneme
on March 8, 2008 at 3:29 AM
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Take care, love. You share well.
posted by
BC-A
on March 7, 2008 at 7:31 PM
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Thanks Nautikos
It's a lot more peaceful, I must say.
posted by
mneme
on March 7, 2008 at 3:24 PM
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Hi mneme
Good for you that you extricated yourself from what was clearly an intolerable sitution. And it's good to see you back in Blogitville...
posted by
Nautikos
on March 7, 2008 at 2:16 PM
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Hi Taps - actually the struggle has all gone. If my STBE gives me any trouble over the phone or skype, I can press a button and he's gone:) I knew the minute I got home that I'd made the right decision, for me. Yet, stupidly, in the garden a week or so back while I was pruning and tidying up I was quite happy and thought to myself, you know, I could just call him and say what the hell, why don't you just come home. But I know that within a day or two, or even a week or two, we would be arguing and he would be blaming me for it all. So I'm not quite there. But I will be.
posted by
mneme
on March 7, 2008 at 1:30 PM
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mneme, why is it always about control with some men? And manipulation--they always lose when they try to manipulate a woman. Sorry its all such a struggle for you right now, but you will come out on top and be stronger and wiser for it.
posted by
TAPS.
on March 7, 2008 at 1:25 PM
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sam444
Thanks - I think I am.. it's a bit touch and go but I'm happy.
posted by
mneme
on March 7, 2008 at 12:34 PM
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azur
You're right on the money there - pardon the pun :) Nice to see you stop by.
posted by
mneme
on March 7, 2008 at 12:33 PM
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Troosha
I'm back in the UK now. It can only be temporary for now but who knows. Thanks for stopping by:)
posted by
mneme
on March 7, 2008 at 12:31 PM
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mneme
Wow - I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles. Are you on track to go to the UK or is it still on hold for now? I hope you find peace and take the time to nurture you.
posted by
Troosha
on March 7, 2008 at 12:26 PM
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You must take control of your life! sam
posted by
sam444
on March 7, 2008 at 11:48 AM
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Mneme
Lovely to see you. Keep standing strong. Good for you re the cards, If he thinks your sum strength lies there, he doesn't know you at all, if he ever did.
posted by
Azur
on March 7, 2008 at 11:43 AM
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