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opheliablue
Thank you, I believe the same. I was just reflecting on something that I believe has affected my life but I know how patriotic Americans can be. I am not completely american so I can see things from a different perspective and I am not blind, you know. LOL.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 13, 2007 at 7:31 AM
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I have to say this..
...this is your blog - your blog is for you to express all the things you're thinking and feeling about your situation. Piss and moan about whatever you feel like pissing and moaning about (not that I think for one minute that you were doing that anyway - you weren't. You, I think, were reflecting on one aspect of your life and putting it into words.)
I'm sure you know that already and you hardly need me to say it :) But I felt like I had to 
posted by
opheliablue
on September 13, 2007 at 1:45 AM
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Troosha
I definitely learned my lesson. I was very foolish.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 12, 2007 at 7:51 AM
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Offy
I am not actually blaming it all on USA, we were the ones who got sucked into it, but I do feel sometimes that we made a mistake but my parents do not want to go back and the truth is it wouldn't be my home anymore.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 12, 2007 at 7:51 AM
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Le
Regardless of country I think we all fall into the trap of wanting more. Now, in my 50's, my priorities have changed and some days I'm grateful for the dinner on my table verus the new car or the
bigger and better.
posted by
Troosha
on September 12, 2007 at 7:48 AM
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I don't know if you can blame a country for failed love or debt...I sure hope things get better for you and you could always return to S.Africa if you feel the solution is there couldn't you?
posted by
Offy
on September 12, 2007 at 7:22 AM
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Le_divorce
While I sympathize with your pain, I think your therapist would be the first to talk to you about personal responsibility and misdirected anger, etc. You can't write stuff like this and not expect the responses you have gotten....of course the USA has more debt, we've spent more helping all the other countries.....of course there are more accidents, we have more highways and cars on them.....more superficial people than anywhere else - on what do you base that? One has to question the folks you've chosen to associate with.....America is not what you see in the magazines and on the screens....it's mainly lived outside that "made for entertainment" world. Do you think you are the first to go through a painful divorce, come from humble beginnings, etc......if what you say is true, I'm sure your whole family is miserable and perhaps they would be willing to happily leave with you for your great other life somewhere more perfect.
posted by
Krisles
on September 12, 2007 at 7:10 AM
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Re: Corbin_Dallas
Life's a bitch and then you die......it's always easier to blame others or the social environment one lives in instead of one's self.......acceptance of responsibility for one's actions is a major step on the road to recovering from anything. You've obviously chosen many other routes, that proved to be wrong. I hope you get on the right path to recovery.......the sound you hear now....is my stepping away.
posted by
Corbin_Dallas
on September 12, 2007 at 7:08 AM
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Corbin_Dallas
Yeah, I am sure that you have never pissed and moaned in your life. See the title of my blog? Divorce therapy. I am going through a divorce, I am going to a phycologist, used to take a lot of pills, been through a lot. If you don't like my "piss and whine", then kindly step away from my blog, how about that?
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 12, 2007 at 6:57 AM
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Re: So, I guess envy and keeping up with the neighbors, putting on a facade
is there any other country with as much debt as USA, as many traffic accidents, as many superficial people? The answer is no. As you well know, USA has a shady reputation in other countries and obviously its influence is contaminating the world.
At least I am admitting that I got caught and I have a problem. Millions are still struggling to meet ends meet because they bit more than they could chew. I am sure that you have gone through what I have and that is why you feel so entitled to be sarcastic.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 12, 2007 at 6:52 AM
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Re: Corbin_Dallas
Hmmm??? Then why piss and moan about it?
posted by
Corbin_Dallas
on September 12, 2007 at 6:51 AM
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Corbin_Dallas
Sure, if you want me to leave my family and everyone I know and move to a place that is no longer my home and start all over, yeah that would definitely help.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 12, 2007 at 6:50 AM
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araceli
Hopefuly things will get better for you and also for me.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 12, 2007 at 6:48 AM
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Re: le divorce I was born n raised here. As a young child I saw through the
I am happy that you were able to escape from its snare. Most of us are not as lucky.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 12, 2007 at 6:48 AM
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So, I guess envy and keeping up with the neighbors, putting on a facade
doesn't happen outside the borders of the U.S. And people in other Americas aren't going in debt to maintain a false image. And our free will has evaporated under the hypnosis of glamor advertising, we have no choice but to buy into the newest fad...
posted by
Pat_B
on September 12, 2007 at 6:47 AM
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Re: le divorce
it is very hard not to get caught, specially when you weren't raised that way. Were you raised here? Oh, ok, then you wouldn't understand.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 12, 2007 at 6:46 AM
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Re: Le
, yes I do believe that the accidents and the failed relationships would have been less probably in South America. Over there there is not as much traffic as here and people are not in such a hurry. Sure, there are accidents but USA is #1 in traffic deaths. As for the relationships sex is so very commercialized here and people are definitely more shallow.
I think I am doing an lot of introspection and that is what this blog is about, I believe you are reading. I have added living in this country as a factor in my problems and I stand by it.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 12, 2007 at 6:46 AM
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Don't take this the wrong way.........
But there are hundreds of flights leaving the US on a daily basis........wouldn't that solve your problems???
posted by
Corbin_Dallas
on September 12, 2007 at 6:44 AM
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USA
I am from mexico, If you read my blog" A Voice in the Crowd" you'll see full details, I was raised here, part of my problem was not taking advantage of the Education here, I wasn't guided. However a good career has good potential, and also good spending skills. as you put it clothes shouldnt matter, as long as they are clean and not torn or out of shape. There are other clothing far better than main brand fashion. I didn't want to live in Mexico, I became a citizen. I believe, I have a better chance here, my only downfall has been my emotional stability due to all the sexual abuse, and being a single parent, but it was a mistake I made, and I have to deal with the consequences. You ended up with a bad apple in your relationship, live and learn..Now try to focus on your ability to stay away from any one that doesn't respect you, love is respect. You need self respect to avoid those bad apples,and know that you deserved to be loved, and accepted for who you are.
posted by
araceli
on September 12, 2007 at 6:41 AM
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le divorce I was born n raised here. As a young child I saw through the
veneer of the American Dream. I saw that it was not for me. I will say that there are many happy people here living it, but me I live without debt, a partner, a mortgage, a new car every five years, etc. You can live here without getting caught up in the mix of materialism! Best wishes for much success to you .
posted by
mysteria
on September 12, 2007 at 5:40 AM
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le divorce
posted by
jacentaOld
on September 11, 2007 at 11:34 PM
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Hi Le divorce
Take care
posted by
richinstore
on September 11, 2007 at 8:04 PM
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le divorce
I agree with Nautikos. Seems that you got caught up in the "American Dream" thing and it turned into a nightmare. That dream is much more than material; the only part you have lived it seems.
posted by
Tattered_Knight
on September 11, 2007 at 7:37 PM
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Le
In fairness, are the accidents the country's fault? The failed relationships? The 'need' to 'keep up appearances'? There are millions upon millions of people living happy and fulfilled lives in the US, as well as here in Canada!
I know you're having a hard time right now, and I sympathize with that, but I would argue that a little more introspection might be useful...
posted by
Nautikos
on September 11, 2007 at 4:43 PM
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Mademoiselle
Ummmm, yeah, I had forgotten about that... erm... ok...
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 11, 2007 at 11:31 AM
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Though, in fairness, there are also many positives to living in this country, also.
As well as several negatives to living in South America.
The roving gangs of murderous thugs who constantly prowl the city streets in search of unsuspecting victims, for instance.
If anyone ever says they hate violence more than I do,
they better have a knife, that's all I'm saying.
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Mademoiselle
on September 11, 2007 at 10:47 AM
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FineYoungSinger
Over there we had our own apartment, were not paying mortgage, we had one car for the whole family and weren't overly worried about money. Here we have a mortgage, cars, etc and are unhappy. People say third world countries are dangerous, but how many die every day in USA because someone wanted their wallet?
Thanks for your own insight 
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 11, 2007 at 9:37 AM
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gotta say, this culture is a bit crazy here.
Things mattering more than people is not the way to live. Sometimes I wonder who the poor really are---those from the third world I think are richer in many respects. Good observations here.
posted by
FineYoungSinger
on September 11, 2007 at 9:31 AM
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