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Symphony
How can we not mourn the loss of something that was once part of our life?
posted by
Nautikos
on September 19, 2007 at 4:48 AM
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symphony
I've found bloggers to be anything but judgemental... hope you find the peace you need.
posted by
mneme
on September 5, 2007 at 12:36 AM
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I actually went throu the same thing, those I was much younger....I met him when I was 16.....he was romantic sweet kind and wonderful...he would even stop and pick flowers for me from the medium strip lol it was wonderful...always giving me gifts and telling me how lucky he is to have me...then he started doing drugs...things got bad....kicking me in the face, punching me and breaking windows bad...we broke up...he came back said he changed..we got back together...i got pregnant..he ran ....he came back again...I said No...the only thing that gave me that strenght was my child growing inside of me...I was 18, pregnant and scared...but we get throu it...I would never go back..but thats me. I think I did most of my growing up way too early so most of my decisions where flawed except the last of never looking back.
You have to go through it yourself, you have to force yourself the remember the bad times...you dont ever want to put your kids throu that again. But unfortunately you cant tell your heart what to feel...this is where Faith and personal Strength come into play...and you already said No..
I feel for you and relate to you on a very personal and emotional level...I too was raped..I was 15 and a virgin and it was by a trusted friend so it was not easy and it was worse when I confided in my then bf...since I had sex issues...so I understand where you are coming from and Im here if you ever need to talk at all...email me, comment me whatever..just take care of yourself and your kids hon.
Blessed Be
posted by
Problem_Girl
on September 4, 2007 at 6:54 PM
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Lady Symphony--well done for writing all your thoughts down!
It's probable that some of the responses may help you.Good luck-God bless.Chris.
posted by
Scramble
on September 4, 2007 at 12:39 PM
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Thank you all so much for your comments...I took on board every one of them
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 4, 2007 at 5:43 AM
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I wish you the best of luck
posted by
opheliablue
on September 4, 2007 at 3:00 AM
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Lady, unfortunately I know EXACTLY how you feel - I have just come from
where you are now and believe me nothing is harder than breaking away from someone you love and care for. What you have to do is isolate yourself from the situation and put a stranger in your place. What would you advise her to do for the best?? Whatever you decide will be the right decision for you. Good luck and God bless
posted by
mariaki
on September 4, 2007 at 2:56 AM
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symphony
he is obessed with you not in love, move on and forget him getting hurt, he doesnt hurt he is upset because he cant control you anymore. Soory but I just say it the way I see it
posted by
Lanetay
on September 3, 2007 at 5:24 PM
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Symphony
It takes a while to put the past behind us and even though things went sour we often carry around the good times that took place. Meeting someone new might just help the mending. You don't have to dive into "love" but a kind and caring friendship might be just what you need right now.
posted by
Troosha
on September 3, 2007 at 5:06 PM
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A new person may have his own issues too. New people are exciting but we need to be cautious too.
posted by
A-and-B
on September 3, 2007 at 4:07 PM
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Sweet Lady
You have such a beautiful heart. I am so sorry all this is happening. Only you can sort this out, I will be praying for you. I pray it will be sorted with the greatest of ease.
posted by
Justi
on September 3, 2007 at 1:01 PM
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what a sad story
As you know, I am going through a divorce. There are no kids, however, so in many ways it is a lot less complicated than your situation.
It is heartbreaking, and my ex is apparently really happy to be rid of me. At least yours doesn't hate you. I think you did the right thing telling him there is someone else because it would be said if he kept up false hopes.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 3, 2007 at 9:25 AM
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posted by
riri0322
on September 3, 2007 at 8:58 AM
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Well summarised, Lady S - keep us informed.
posted by
Antonionioni
on September 3, 2007 at 8:57 AM
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posted by
lovelyladymonk
on September 3, 2007 at 8:03 AM
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No judgement Symphony...I think it's perfectly normal to mourn the loss of any relationship good or otherwise. Take care..
posted by
Offy
on September 3, 2007 at 7:55 AM
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You've sure been through alot. Sorry to hear that.
posted by
Sheilah
on September 3, 2007 at 7:45 AM
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No judgement, but one of these won't do any harm to help you decide. Or maybe a cup of tea.
posted by
_dave_says_ack_
on September 3, 2007 at 6:47 AM
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wow... well, I'll say this much... just because you're the one moving on
doesn't mean that you won't grieve the end to the relationship also. I've always felt sadness when I broke up with someone... especially someone I cared a lot about... it's completely normal. Allow yourself that much... but don't dwell too long. Good luck with the new guy!!
posted by
-blackcat
on September 3, 2007 at 6:42 AM
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